Man Ignored By Family During Jail Time, Won't Help With Dad's Funeral After Getting Out

"There are a lot of emotions and resentments flying around"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• July 25, 2023

One of our greatest losses, for many people, is the death of a parent. A parent's passing signifies the end of a relationship we've known our entire lives, and saying goodbye to one is a life-changing experience.

We have no idea how our lives will be without our parents until it really occurs. Particularly when tragedy affects a parent, someone whose presence in your life may have never wavered, death's finality might seem almost unreal.

Yes, you've successfully completed growing up and reached adulthood, yet you would still require (and anticipate needing) your parents for many years to come. Even if their death was anticipated, the loss of their support, wisdom, and love can leave a tremendous void and sadness that may seem difficult to repair.

Or perhaps you and your parents had a tumultuous relationship or were estranged, which caused a roller coaster of conflicting feelings. The OP of today's story spent six years in jail, and neither his dad nor brother ever visited him once.

It did hurt the OP more than he could imagine, and he admits holding a bit of a grudge. Now, his dad is dead, and his elder brother is planning his funeral rites.

He reached out to the OP and asked him to help plan certain aspects of the service, but the OP refused.

The headline

It hurt the OP more than he could imagine, and he has held a bit of a grudge

OP's brother said that him being in prison was “shameful” to their dad

The Reddit post got hundreds of comments and we've gathered a bunch of them for you to read through below

OP's the AH for this redditor

They won't help the OP in life at all

This Redditor can't imagine being in such a scary place

The OP is welcome to his feelings

The OP should possibly improve the relationship with his brother

It's important to know if the OP's crime stopped them from visiting

They don't need the OP's shameful help

The OP and his brother are working to heal

This Redditor has a similar story to share

It takes a lengthy process to visit someone in prison

Mourning is individualized

The OP is in a really messy situation

The OP's not obligated to do what he doesn't want

OP's brother should respect his decisions

This Redditor grew up with relatives in prison

This isn't the time to air grievances

No one owes anyone prison visitations

People aren't disposable in most cases

From someone whose brother is in jail

Apparently, this story ignited a lot of questions from Redditors. Some wanted to know the crime the OP committed, while some were interested in knowing what the OP's previous record was like.

Some wanted to know if this was the last straw in a long line of arrests and criminal behavior, as they could see a family being fed up and distancing themselves after all that. However, the OP was declared the AH.

Maryjane