Deadbeat Dad Makes Scene At Daughter's Funeral, Accuses Sister Who Raised Her Of Causing Her Cancer And Death

He couldn't take care of his daughter after he got addicted to cope with his wife's death during childbirth.

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• January 13, 2024

Tragedy struck when a 34-year-old's daughter passed away from leukemia. OP's 9-year-old daughter, Abby, was her older brother's biological daughter.

OP and her husband raised Abby after her mom passed away from childbirth. Her brother couldn't cope with his high school sweetheart's death.

He got addicted to drugs, alcohol, and gambling. OP and her husband stepped up once they determined that her brother was unfit to be a parent.

They did their best to include him in Abby's life, but he was barely lucid. He had several stints at a rehab facility, but he relapsed soon after he got released.

OP and her husband did their best to provide a normal childhood for Abby. When their daughter was seven, she was diagnosed with stage three leukemia.

They saw specialists and sought every treatment possible. A year later, Abby was declared cancer-free.

Unfortunately, Abby had a recurrence after a year. OP, her husband, and her parents had to strongarm Abby's biological dad to see her at the hospital.

He left as soon as he got there. Abby's condition worsened, and she died three weeks later as OP and her husband held her.

OP's brother showed up to Abby's funeral high as a kite. He made a scene and yelled that OP and her husband had taken his daughter away.

He said it was their fault that Abby got sick and died. OP's dad stepped in and tried to calm her brother down, but he wouldn't stop.

OP was fuming. OP screamed at her brother. She asked him how he could abandon his daughter as she lay dying in the hospital.

OP's husband tried to console her, but her anger blinded her from reason.

OP's mom scolded her later on. She accused OP of ruining the service. The rest of her relatives felt the same.

OP's husband didn't offer any opinion since the eventful sad day.

OP couldn't figure out if her mom and their family were right to place the blame on her.

OP clarified that Abby was aware that her dad couldn't take care of her. She just didn't know the specifics.

No one in that room had a right to tell OP she was wrong for getting upset after the accusations her brother hurled at her.

No parent grieving the death of their child should have to sit and be lectured at for reacting the way OP did.

Indeed, OP's brother was probably deflecting but it isn't her responsibility to help him sort through his complicated emotions.

Why is their family pushing OP to take responsibility for what happened? Is her brother absolved from dealing with the same because of his addiction?

The last thing that OP needs is to deal with this drama.

If they didn't want a spectacle, why air out their grievances in public? OP didn't ruin anything.

Even a saint would have a problem keeping their temper in check in that situation.

OP should ignore what her mom and her relatives said to her.

OP shared an update. She found a support group for her and her husband. Her brother is back and rehab. She also decided to go low-contact with her family.

No one should have expected OP to remain calm after her brother's reprehensible accusations. Maintaining some distance from those who blamed her was the right decision.

OP can't heal if she's busy walking on eggshells, fearing how others would react to her grief. Healing is what OP needs, not theatrics.

Chelsi