Redditor Gets Banned From Family And Ends Up Separated For Refusing MIL's Request To Lend Wedding Dress To SIL

"Now I am no longer invited to family dinners or functions"

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• October 11, 2023

People usually believe that the hardest decision in life is getting married, but the hardest actually comes later. Even if everything is great between the couple, they can't disregard their families.

Families always have something to say, and if they're persistent enough with their interference, it might begin causing fights between the couple. Something similar happened to a Reddit user, so she wanted to hear other's opinions to check if she was wrong in her stance.

The OP married her husband a year ago and chose a unique light yellow wedding dress with significant sentimental and monetary value. Recently, her husband's family mentioned difficulties finding an affordable prom dress for his 16-year-old sister, which surprised the OP because they're not poor.

The OP suggested places for search but to no avail. Two weeks later, during a family dinner, they mentioned the sister still didn't have a dress, and the prom was only three days away.

The OP's MIL unexpectedly suggested the OP lend her cherished wedding dress, believing they could tailor it in time. However, the OP declined this request due to the dress's sentimental importance and the size differences between her and her SIL.

The suggestion to tailor the dress led to tension, with the OP emphasizing potential fit issues afterward. The situation escalated, making the sister cry and leading to the OP and her husband leaving early.

While the OP's husband was disappointed for not sharing the dress, he agreed it was the OP's choice. However, his family was enraged.

Later, upon seeing the sister in a new blue dress, the OP complimented her, but then her MIL expressed a weird demand. MIL told her to either sell the dress and get her half back or directly help with half the payment.

The OP found this ridiculous, but her husband insisted on compliance. Her refusal resulted in a brief separation, and he went to MIL.

Now, she's excluded from family events, and they blame her for sabotaging the sister's prom. Feeling isolated, especially with her husband's lukewarm support, the OP questions her judgments.

The OP asks:

The OP explained she wore a beautiful non-traditional wedding dress:

The OP was surprised to learn her SIL can't find an affordable prom dress:

But three days before prom, MIL said they still hadn't bought the dress:

Then, the MIL asked her to lend her wedding dress to the SIL:

The OP told her the dress had sentimental value to her:

The MIL was persistent, so the OP expressed her concerns:

It resulted in the SIL ending up in tears and the family enraged:

A few days later, the OP saw they bought a lovely blue dress and complimented it:

However, her SIL contacted her with weird demands:

After the OP refused MIL's demands, everything went downhill, and she wondered if she was wrong:

It's her dress, so the choice is hers

"To expect someone to give you their item simply because you want it is absurd."

The OP should reconsider her marriage

Find a better man

That might help them

Or this

"You're owed apologies from all of them"

"Take note of your husband's actions"

What an entitled family

The OP is not in the wrong

"Don't let people disrespect your boundaries"

The OP added an update:

After everything that happened, the OP decided to separate:

Redditors agreed with the OP that her point of view is not wrong. It's her wedding dress, and they were rude for asking her to give it away because the dress holds a certain sentimental value for her.

As for the second dress, she has no obligation to pay half because she didn't buy it, they did.

Filip