Frustrated Man Feels Sick And Tired Of His Couch Potato Of A Mother-In-Law, Thinks She's Destroying His Marriage

He doesn't want to deal with his JUSTNOMIL anymore.

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• Published in Interesting
• November 9, 2023

It may be hard to believe, but mothers-in-law have the power to destroy marriages. It's a fact of life that not every relationship is destined to be sunshine and rainbows.

Misunderstandings, differences in opinion, and even meddling can create friction that puts a strain on your marriage. Maybe she's constantly offering unsolicited advice or making decisions for your family without consulting you.

These situations can quickly turn what was once a harmonious marriage into a battleground. Today's story from the JUSTNOMIL subreddit is one of those situations where a mother-in-law has caused quite a storm in a relationship.

The original poster's (OP's) mother-in-law (MIL) moved in with them temporarily due to financial constraints. This arrangement became even more complicated when the MIL broke her leg and had to undergo surgery, followed by a stint in a rehab facility.

The family received an unexpected call stating that the MIL was returning home, even though their house wasn't ideal for someone with mobility issues, and they have three young children. Despite her recovery, the MIL didn't actively contribute to the household.

She spent her days watching TV, browsing her phone, and indulging in unnecessary purchases, neglecting cleaning, interaction with her grandchildren, grocery shopping, or cooking. This situation has created significant strain in the OP's marriage.

The OP simply wanted to get his issue off his chest. He shared his situation with the JUSTNOMIL community.

His MIL has been living with his family since she recovered from her leg injury. After rehab, she came to the OP's home.

Although the OP didn't really ask for advice, concerned users still wanted to help. They gave him ideas on how to deal with this issue.

Some Redditors believe that depression is making the MIL this way.

The OP confirmed that she is indeed depressed. The depression came after the leg injury.

The JUSTNOMIL is also very picky with food.

Parasites wouldn't leave if they're getting what they need from the host, as implied by some users.

People just can't help but wish for the best for the OP.

The OP really just wanted to rant about it, but he's grateful for the community's support.

No matter what steps the OP takes, his marriage will always be part of the considerations.

In every decision he makes regarding his MIL, he can't make them on his own. He needs to always involve his wife.

Sad but true.

Dealing with a MIL who remains inactive, confined to the couch, despite being fully capable of contributing more, is undeniably challenging for the entire household. The OP is being pushed to his limits and feels that it's taking a toll on the relationship with his wife.

But, as per the wise folks on Reddit, it's a good idea for him to ease things up a bit. Maybe he could have a chat with his wife about the idea of the MIL spending some quality time with her other relatives.

When it comes to making a decision, keeping the marriage intact is the goal. So, a friendly tip would be to have a heart-to-heart with his wife before taking any big steps.

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