Man Brags He Bought His Home, Girlfriend Reveals It's Not True And Embarrasses Him
"I pointed out he lived at home rent free for years, so he did get help from his parents."
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- Published in Interesting
Buying a home is a huge milestone in someone's life. It's even more admiring if the person is in their 20s because that's a truly big success.
Usually, young people can't afford to buy it on their own due to high real estate prices. But, as this Reddit story suggests, it's not impossible.
The OP is a 29-year-old female. She owns her home, which she purchased with a deposit derived in the form of inheritance from her late grandmother three years ago.
She openly acknowledges and appreciates this fortunate circumstance as it helped her to buy her home. Her boyfriend, a 27-year-old male, recently bought his first home, a milestone for which she feels genuinely happy.
Nevertheless, she notes a difference in how he represents his achievement. He claims he has saved up the required funds entirely on his own.
And while it is technically correct that he saved the money himself, he also benefited significantly from his parents' support. They provided him with a rent-free and food-free living situation for several years, enabling him to save £30,000 in two years.
During a gathering at his house, he bragged about his financial independence in saving for the house. He even compared his situation unfavorably to others who received financial assistance, including a pointed reference to the OP.
She was taken aback by this argument because, due to the current housing market, it is common to get some financial help to afford a home. In response, she opposed his claim by highlighting that living at home without paying rent or food constituted significant help from his parents.
Her perspective supported one of his friends, which enraged her boyfriend, leading to an early end to the evening. After the guests had left, he accused her of being disrespectful and embarrassing him in front of his friends.
So, the OP questions whether her actions were inappropriate given the circumstances.
The OP asks:
RedditThe OP explained how she bought her home:
RedditHer boyfriend bought his first home also, but his parents helped him a lot:
RedditRecently, he bragged that he managed to buy a home alone and 'didn't just get a handout like some people':
RedditThe OP pointed out the help he had from his parents, and he got angry at her, saying she embarrassed him:
RedditShe's not wrong for reminding him how he managed to save the money
RedditHe didn't have to lie
RedditIt's a relationship-ending move
RedditHe shouldn't have compared their achievements in the first place
RedditHe made it a competition
RedditIt seems this relationship may not be the healthiest
RedditRedditors agreed that the OP was not in the wrong for reminding her boyfriend that his parents did help him a lot. Living at their house, rent-free and food-free, was a great financial help.
Besides, it's not a competition. He should be proud of his achievements, but he has no right to belittle the achievements of others.
If he is always going to compare his and the OP's accomplishments, maybe this relationship is not the best for the OP.