31 Specific Circumstances That Caused Individuals To End Their Relationship

"She poisoned my cat Mr Noodle."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• September 7, 2022

Finding a life partner is not always easy, but it's also an adventure anyone needs to go through. Relationships with different people help you define your priorities and understand what you want from your life partner.

Once you establish your expectations from a partner, everything goes easier later. You know what you want, and you search for it.

A relationship is supposed to make you happier and enjoy being in your partner's company. If you feel obligated to spend some time with your partner, you should reconsider whether that relationship is exactly what you've been looking for.

If you don't understand each other's needs, then talk about it and try to solve your problems. But, again, keep in mind that a toxic relationship that brings you down instead of lifting you is not the best choice for you or your partner.

No one can exactly tell you how to recognize a good or bad partnership, but still, a Reddit user was curious and asked, “What was the moment you knew your relationship was over?”.

People shared their experiences, and we gathered different reasons that made them realize it was time to end the delusional relationship and search for the right one.

1. "She poisoned my cat Mr Noodle. RIP."

"Thanks, everybody for the support, and if you're asking: yeah I got the police involved"

2. "When you feel alone and they're right next to you."

3. Realized his feelings

"I was at my best friend's wedding. When he saw his bride walking down the aisle, he had a grin so big it looked like it could have exploded right off of his face.

He was so happy to be marrying this person. And when I thought about my, now-ex, gf I realized that I just didn't feel that way about her.

I will say, when I married my wife, I was grinning like an idiot."

4. "The day my mom passed away"

"The day my mom passed away (the coroner hadn't even come for her body yet) with zero consideration on how I felt and what I was going through my ex-fiancé thought it was great idea and a good time to tell me he has been cheating on me for the last 6 years, and how sorry he was for it. He wasn't sorry he did it, but he sorry because the other woman had lied to him about who she really was and he wanted me to comfort him because he felt betrayed by her....

When I promptly broke up with him, he asked "wait is this really goodbye?" How could you do this to me now?"

5. "When I was going through a miscarriage and he couldn’t take me to the ER because he was in fantasy leagues and football was on."

6. When he realized she didn't care about their marriage

"Married for 21 years. The last ten were devoid of any love, warmth, or caring.

I (M53) did not want to get divorced and figured this was just the way the rest of my life would be. We were taking our third shot at marriage counseling and after a few months, my wife says she has to quit counseling because she wants to attend a meditation class at the same time.

She had something better to do than work on our marriage. That's when it hit me that she didn't GAF at all about our marriage and I decided that I did not want that to be the rest of my life.

We're currently 2 1/2 years into divorce. It's painful and expensive.

But personally, I've never been happier. I am leading my best life.

So so glad I decided to move on."

7. When she told him she didn't love him

"When after 7 years, a particularly cold conversation, and with tears in my eyes I said, "I just want you to love me" and she said "Well I dont, and dont you feel pathetic for having to ask?"

Edit: This was 5 years ago now and I am doing so much better. The best love is self love."

8. When she accidentally described her crush

"3 weeks before we broke up she described the kind of guy she would date if we broke up. She described her coworker and I honestly thought they had hooked up by this point.

To my delight, he was a good noodle and never wanted to be more than work friends with her. When he found out she left me to be with him he reached out and told me he was sorry for everything even though it wasn't his fault.

I told him I'm not holding anything against him, but thanked him for being a good person"

9. When she caught him cheating on her

"My ex & I were not living together, but he had the key to my place. I told him that I was gonna go see my parents for the weekend, but then changed my mind last minute because I started feeling sick.

I forgot to tell him & just went home after work & went to bed. I woke up around 10pm to get a glass of water & while I was in the kitchen I heard someone fumbling at the door with the lock.

I freaked out because I lived on the 17th floor, so if it was a break in, I was f****d. All of a sudden he walks in..... dragging a tipsy girl in behind him.

I just stood there while he tried to make up some sort of excuse as to WHY he was there. The girl was pretty shocked too."

10. "When you dread her name coming up on caller ID because you knew it was an argument about nothing. Don’t settle for an angry life."

11. After a huge fight

"She had picked on me for months. Constantly criticizing everything.

I couldn't do anything right. I tried.

I kissed her a*s and apologized for every single perceived wrongdoing. After months one day I told her, calmly, you're mean to me.

She blew up. Veins came out and she did that weird growl/yelling thing and told me she'd cut my throat and burn down my house.

I left with my kids to my parents house. Came back the next day she was gone.

Haven't seen her since. And strangely, my anxiety is all but gone"

12. When he texted her that he was cheating on her

"The moment he "accidentally" sent me a text that was supposedly meant for someone else, making plans to hook up at his house. My only response to that was "OK, be safe".

I added quotes because I suspected that he did this on purpose to try and get me to break up with him, expecting some sort of angry response from me. He didn't get that, although I did get an earful from him a couple weeks down the line about how he "never found me attractive physically or romantically".

To which I responded, "OK" and never talked to him again. To this day, I will never understand why some people choose to play games rather than just be upfront.

No matter, I'm now happily married to an amazing person!"

13. When her psycho had crossed a line

"She told me that I had a choice. Either I completely cut ties with ALL of my family and ALL of my friends.

Or I cut ties with her. That was when I decided that her psycho had crossed a line that I wouldn't break.

Very glad I dodged a bullet, very sad I lost close to 4 years of my life before I realized she was psycho."

14. "You can see it in their eyes when they don't love you anymore. I'll never forget that feeling."

15. "When she came up on caller id and my first thought was "Ugh."."

16. "When she said “ you don’t look like you are going anywhere with your life “."

"I was 18 in the middle of college where the hell was I supposed to be at that point"

17. When she showed that she didn't care about his health and life

"I was going through a cancer scare. She didn’t come with me to any appointments because she didn’t want to miss class.

She was my best friend and the only person in the city who I told about what was happening. She, however, told several of her friends and classmates and let the news spread through our program (I think she liked the second-hand sympathy).

She minimized everything, told me I was overreacting when I went to her for support, and told me I’d feel better if I just stopped touching the mass. When it came time to decide what to do when our lease ended, I chose to move home to be with my family.

We broke it off, she moved out, and two days later I was diagnosed with cancer. I know it sounds bad, but I’m better for having gone through it.

I’ll always hold that cancer was one of the best things to happen to me."

18. "When I had fertility tests done after 2 years of trying to fall pregnant. He left me the same day I found out I was infertile."

19. She told him she wasn't ready for marriage, but he still proposed to her soon after.

"When he proposed to me in front of a crowd of over 3,000 people, at a job we BOTH worked at, just two weeks after we had gotten into one of the worst fights we had ever had. What was the topic of the fight?

He had joked about proposing and I told him I didn’t feel ready to be married. The relationship lasted for about 6 months after that, but the ring never felt like anything more than a shackle."

20. "Found nude pictures of her and some other dude on the family camera and they were taken on our couch in our living room in our house."

21. After a lot of disrespect and humiliation.

"He had a can of drink, asked if anyone wanted any (we were in a group)..I said yes please so he poured it in the bin.

Sounds minor, but this was the last thing after alot of s**t."

22. "I would always be the one to initiate talking and taking part in activities together. I realized I was the only one putting effort in."

23. "When I realized I dreaded Fridays, our standard date night, and saw it as something I needed to get past before I could start enjoying the weekend."

24. When arguments became fights

"We used to get in some real bad arguments. These arguments would often end in her hitting me.

Once in a while, she'd really go to town on me. I can take a hit, but she could throw a punch.

Girl had a hell of right hook. Years of that, off and on.

Anyway, one evening, one such argument turns into her just wailing on me. And I finally snapped.

I pushed her up against the wall and was ready to hit her back. Just for a moment.

I didn't. I walked away.

The fight didn't end there, and the relationship didn't end that night. But I walked away for good not long after."

25. "I got into a car accident and called him and he didn't care"

26. "When her Dad, who I had just met, told her to stop being a b***h or she would lose me."

"(looking back at it, she was being a total b***h, but it was her dad saying it that opened my eyes.) We broke up after her parents left."

27. When his behavior became too much to bear

"He stopped talking to me 3 days into a 3 week holiday, I made the best of it, once home the silent treatment continued for another 3 weeks. He rolls over in bed one morning and starts talking like nothing happened.

I should have ended it long before, but THAT was the moment I knew it was over."

28. After he found out she was better off sleeping without him

"I hadn't slept in our bed for 18 months and asked "Don't you even miss me in here?"

"No"

Edit: I offered to sleep in the guest room due to my snoring (weight gain, stress of working several jobs, and general stress of life/marriage). We never slept in the same bed again.

I now know after therapy I was immensely depressed and am much better at taking care of myself both physically and mentally.

While the marriage didn't recover, we have 2 amazing kids and my headspace is much more free."

29. "When we were arguing for the umpteenth time and I lost the will to continue."

"I usually begged her to stay but I just told her to go"

30. "When I was told GET THE FUCK OUT!! It clued me in."

31. When he saw how she behaved when her boss was around

"When I saw how she completely changed when her boss was around. She became much more pleasant, flirty, and amenable.

That's when I realized the only reason she was dating me was in hopes it would make her boss jealous enough to leave his wife for her."

Hopefully, these other's people experiences will give you the strength to end the toxic relationship if you are in one. Or at least clarify to you what truly matters about being in a relationship.

Although the moment someone realizes that his relationship is not good enough is so depressing, don't forget that it also opens a lot of others possibilities.

Filip