Woman Hosts Christmas Party But Bans Alcohol Because Her Father Was An Alcoholic - So Family Decides Not To Attend

Did she do wrong by banning alcohol from Christmas celebration?

Lakeisha

• Published in Interesting
• December 25, 2022

omom2122 on Reddit wants to know whether she's an a-hole for banning alcohol from this Christmas celebration in her home.

In a post she shared on the AITA subreddit, omom2122 disclosed that her husband's family likes to drink, and usually, their holidays include multiple bottles of wine or cocktails. However, she hates drinking and has never indulged in it because her father was an alcoholic.

She also thinks it's childish to be unable to have fun without drinking. Since it was her turn to host Christmas, she thought it'd be a great idea not to have alcohol for a change.

omom2122 said she told her husband's sister about the no-alcohol rule when she called to ask whether she could make a Christmas martini. Her husband's sister informed the rest of the family, and since then, some have reached out to tell her it's lame.

However, she's unwilling to budge. Recently, she learned that her husband's sister is hosting an alternative gathering that almost everyone wants to go to instead.

According to omom2122, her husband said they should attend the gathering too and not make a big deal out of it, but she thinks it's disrespectful and rude. Now, her husband is upset with her because he'd have to spend Christmas alone with her.

omom2122 argues that it was her turn to host Christmas, so she had a right to choose not to have alcohol. Is she being an a-hole? Here's what the AITA community thinks.

Here's how it started.

She won't attend. But here's how Reddit responded.

1. It's wrong for her to set such rules unless alcohol has ruined previous events.

2. Christmas is about family, friendship, and tradition.

3. There are at least 4 reasons why she's an ahole.

4. Her husband's family has not obligated to follow her rules.

5. Christmas celebration is not about her.

6. While she has a right to set the rules in her home, people also have a right not to attend if they don't like her rules.

7. Why should her in-laws attend her party when she has made it clear she thinks they are immature alcoholics?

8. She needs therapy.

9. She has no right to judge how people celebrate Christmas.

10. Christmas is one of the few times people get together to enjoy themselves.

11. A host's job is to make their guests feel welcomed.

12. She's selfish for judging them based on her personal experience.

13. Her in-laws are not obligated to come to her party.

14. It's sad that her husband is caught in the middle.

15. She's being unnecessarily too strict.

16. Her stance is understandable, but she cannot force it on others.

17. They've obeyed her rules by refusing to show up.

18. She should learn to deal with the consequences of her choices.

19. Not everyone who drinks would behave like her father.

20. Her non-alcohol rule is unreasonable.

What Do You Think?

Spending time with family is the most precious thing in the world, and holidays such as Christmas provide the perfect opportunity for families to unite and bond.

Generally, everyone celebrates the holiday season differently, and each family has traditions they practice whenever they come together to celebrate.

While the first line of thought is to kick against traditions that do not align with ours, finding common ground can help everyone enjoy the holiday season without creating unnecessary tension.

Lakeisha