Lactose Intolerant Lady Accused Of Ruining Her Family's Christmas With Her "Vegan Feast," Redditors React

"I don't like seeing people eating dead animals"

Maryjane

• Published in Christmas
• December 28, 2023

The act of spending time together is important to both family and friendship. Dinners, coffee dates, BBQs, birthday parties, and a plethora of other social gatherings all entail food and discussion.

Going out or entertaining with friends and family who are not vegetarians may be very intimidating for both new and seasoned vegans. You could be anxious at first since you don't want to cause any trouble.

Maybe it's your partner or parents handling the majority of the cooking, or it may be your grandmother preparing a special dish for the family, but you find out that your vegan choice is not catered to. It can seem impossible to make a significant change without adding to the workload or upsetting anyone.

The reason for your nervousness can be that, despite being greatly outnumbered, you just don't feel like sitting at a table full of meat dishes and being questioned about your dietary and lifestyle choices. It goes without saying that family members and friends won't always hold the same values.

For years, the OP didn't mind going home hungry if she got to spend time with her family. The OP visited her grandma frequently, and she knew the OP was lactose intolerant but never made any meals for her.

Now the OP has gone vegan and wants to prepare a vegan meal for their Christmas family gathering, but her aunt is against it. Read the full story as you scroll down below.

OP kicks off her story

They still didn't make anything for the OP

Everyone said that it was good

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

1: decided to not change my mind about preparing a vegan feast

2: because according to my aunt I am selfish and it might ruin my family's Christmas

The Reddit post got a thousand comments and here are a bunch of them

She's capable of eating vegan foods

It's a lot harder to accommodate

People can be exhausting

OP added this update in the comments

My grandmother is also diabetic and I always keep that in mind when I bake/cook for her and my aunt always buys the sugariest cakes for grandma's Birthday. Last year when I made my father's favourite cake for his Birthday she said that we should also have a "normal" cake as well (normal is the exact word she used).

His youngest son always hated chocolate cake and surprise surprise, she bough him a chocolate cake for his 22nd Birthday this year, so later that week I baked him a cake he actually liked.

OP's mom supports her

She should prepare her own dish

Running the risk of ruining Christmas day

This Redditor is not buying it

Without a doubt, eating is a big part of spending time with family and friends. Approaching this issue in the correct or wrong way is irrelevant, but here, it's clear to see that OP's aunt didn’t adapt to her menu for years, and she only made one permissible dish when threatened.

Redditors have no idea why the aunt expects more courtesy from OP than she ever showed her. OP was declared not the AH.

Maryjane