Concerned Mother Turns To The Internet For Advice After Her Daughter Is Denied Cake At Birthday Party In Public Park
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"I got presents for my nieces, nephews, and grandkids (who were at my house for Christmas)."
In many families, the holidays are a time of warmth and unity, yet they can also magnify existing tensions, especially when it comes to differing views on parenting and family traditions. This balance becomes even more challenging when extended family members, such as cousins or in-laws, are involved, raising questions about inclusion and expectations during festive occasions.
A recent Reddit post vividly illustrates these complexities. OP's daughter and her husband are taking care of the daughter's husband's cousins (11 and 7).
OP and her daughter haven't gotten along over the past few months due to different views on how to raise the kids. OP wasn't very surprised when her daughter declined OP's invitation for her, her husband, and the kids to come over for Christmas, although she excused it as wanting their first Christmas to be quiet and not overwhelming.
She came over the other day to drop off a Christmas gift from her, her husband, and the kids. OP thanked her and invited her in for coffee. They stayed and talked for a while, and it was nice.
However, when she was done, she was waiting expectantly by the door. She eventually asked if OP had gotten anything for the kids, and OP said no because they weren't there for Christmas.
She started yelling at OP for not thinking of the kids or getting them anything for Christmas, even though OP got presents for her nieces, nephews, and grandkids (who were at her house for Christmas). She ended up buying toys and wrapping paper and telling the kids it was from OP, then sent videos of them opening it and another one of the youngest saying "thank you, grandma" to rub it in.
She and the kids were supposed to come for lunch on Sunday, but she canceled, and OP is pretty sure it was because of the Christmas presents.
OP may have made a mistake by not getting Christmas presents for her daughter's husband's cousins just because they weren't at her house. Understandably, tensions between OP and her daughter regarding child-rearing choices may have played a role in this decision.
However, the key issue here is not about the presents themselves, but rather the strained relationship between OP and her daughter. OP should consider taking steps to mend their relationship and communicate openly.
It's important to address the underlying issues and differences in child-rearing philosophies, as well as any other sources of tension. This may involve having an honest and calm conversation with her daughter, expressing her feelings, and listening to her daughter's perspective as well.
Finding common ground and respecting each other's choices can help rebuild trust and understanding.
Additionally, OP could acknowledge her mistake in not getting presents for the cousins and apologize if it hurt her daughter or the kids. Taking responsibility for her actions can go a long way in resolving the immediate issue.