Redditor Refuse Going To The Funeral Of Her Childhood Bully, Friend Gets Infuriated With Her Decision

"My experiences with her were not the fun and happy"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• July 22, 2023

Bullying is a behavior that has traditionally been associated with children playing on the playground, although it can occur between people of any age in any environment—schools, homes, and places of employment. Therefore, the fundamental concern of those who witness such behavior is: Why do people bully others?

Bullies may have different motivations for doing what they do, but they all share several traits in common. As an illustration, some bullies do it because they are aware that it will help them get what they want, while others do it because they are incredibly insecure.

Bullying is never appropriate, no matter the reason or setting. Bullies frequently pick on those who are smaller or younger than them, who are their subordinates at work, or who are members of marginalized or minority groups.

The OP had a very rough childhood due to constant bullying by a large group of people. Amanda was in one of those groups but is dead.

When the news came that Amanda didn’t make it, her social media was blown up by old peers with condolences, but the OP didn't react. Writing how mournful and grief-stricken the OP is would be a slap in the face for both of them, but her friend was still mad at her for it.

She even expected the OP to attend the funeral, which she refused. 

The headline

It's not in the OP's place to dictate who her friends spend time with

Writing how mournful and grief stricken the OP is would be a slap in the face

OP's friend said that it is respectful to go and show support to her family

And the comments roll in...

The OP is doing the respectful thing

Listing the worst of the bullying the OP can think of

The OP behaved appropriately

Dying does not make you a good person

The OP should know that her friend is not really a friend

All the OP is doing is saying that she won't attend

It's also respectful not to go if there's only bad memories

The OP will have friends saying she's a bad person

The OP doesn't have anything that would be welcomed

The OP is being disrespectful or cruel

Be a good person so they don't have to lie at your funeral

The OP is someone that stays true to her character

It is more respectful of the dead to not say anything

The OP doesn't have to do anything for anyone else

The OP can offer her condolence from afar

The things she did in life still happened

There's a way the OP could have handled this inappropriately

Surrounding yourself with people who love and support you

People who bully become targets because they have characteristics, abilities, connections, or assets that the bullies themselves would like to have. And when they die, they don't expect those they bullied to turn up at their funeral.

The OP only did what she thought was best, and so many Redditors agreed with her. As you already know, she was declared not the AH.

Maryjane