Young Woman Can't Beleive Her Mom's Selfishness And Constant Cheating And Insults Her In The Worst Possible Way

"I had to witness my mom cheating on my father, I watched him die in bed while she was off to god knows where."

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• June 22, 2023

Some people, unfortunately, turn to infidelity, causing irreparable harm to their families. In an even more bewildering move, instead of rectifying their actions, they sometimes seek validation for their behavior.

This story revolves around a case where OP, a 25-year-old eldest sibling of four children, recounts her family's experience. OP was merely eight when her mother had an affair with a family friend.

Being the eldest, she had vivid memories of the affair. The clandestine relationship was exposed to OP during family gatherings where her mother and the man were spotted in intimate situations, leaving her deeply disturbed.

The situation was particularly devastating as her father was battling cancer at the time. The affair was eventually discovered, leading to her parents' separation.

The family friend, who was the other man, also cheated on OP's mother shortly thereafter. Despite the turmoil, OP confronted her mother about the affair after her father's death, leading the family to seek therapy around three years prior to this recounting.

In the present, OP's mother is married to a supportive man. However, she recently ran into her former lover and began exchanging emails with him.

OP, having read the correspondence, suspects that the man still has feelings for her mother, who seems to be reciprocating his attention. OP's new stepfather, aware of her mother's past, disagrees with her actions but does not interfere due to it being part of her past life.

When her mother asked OP's opinion on meeting the former lover for closure, OP sternly advised her mother to distance herself from the man. She highlighted the potential of the reunion to ruin her mother's current marriage, just as it did the previous one, calling her mother's actions selfish.

This confrontation led to a temporary rift in their relationship.

OP asks:

OP was merely eight when her mother had an affair with a family friend. Being the eldest, she had vivid memories of the affair.

OP confronted her mother about the affair after her father's death, leading the family to seek therapy around three years prior to this recounting.

When her mother asked OP's opinion on meeting the former lover for closure, OP sternly advised her mother to distance herself from the man.

OP's siblings reproached her for her harsh words, arguing that the infidelity was a matter between their parents. Nevertheless, OP defended her position, voicing her anguish about witnessing her mother's actions during her father's illness and the potential threat it posed to their stepfather.

Despite the backlash, OP remains unapologetic about her stance, reflecting her strong disapproval of her mother's past and potential actions.

Yes, sounds about right:

The intent was to hurt. People shouldn't throw around insults like that

OP knew those words would hurt

"Your mom ruined your family on purpose. She deserved to be told off after all this time."

She needs to change

OP might want to warn stepdad

The bottom line is:

In the end, this story shows how cheating can really mess up a family and not just the couple involved. Kids get dragged into it, too, like OP.

Her mom's choice to reconnect with her old flame shows a real lack of thought for how this might hurt her family all over again. OP's firm stand against her mom's actions, even if it stirred up some family drama, shows real guts and smarts.

She knows that history could repeat itself, and she's standing up to stop that from happening. Hopefully, people can learn from this kind of stuff - it's important, to be honest, own up to mistakes, and do what's right to fix them.

Damjan