Redditor Called Unkind For Cancelling 700$ Wedding Gift Order After The Couple Broke Up

"My MIL has now reached out to us about it and feels that I was unkind to cancel the order. "

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• Published in Interesting
• November 10, 2022

There is often a stigma attached to canceled weddings, but the truth is, sometimes they happen for the right reasons. Couples sometimes doubt their decision at the very last minute due to red flags, infidelity, family problems, or similar issues. 

It's often a relief for both parties after the decision is finally made to cancel the event. If its feeling is not good from the get-go, there's no point in risking it and dragging it more than it needs to be.

After the wedding is canceled, shower, engagement, and wedding gifts that were received must be all returned to the guests who sent them. Even if the present happens to be personalized for you specifically, it must also be returned.

If any of the gifts have already been used, it's okay not to return them. However, everything else must be returned with a thank you note thanking them for their generosity and kindness.

A Redditor who goes by the username u/Relative_Attempt6316 made a post on the r/AmItheA**hole subReddit where she explained how her SIL got upset after she told her that she canceled her wedding gift order. Scroll down to check out the full Reddit post, and scroll a little further to read the comments from the original post.

Here's the original post by Reddit user u/Relative_Attempt6316:

OP ended up canceling the order after the couple was broken up.

The gift was pretty expensive and OP thought it didn't make sense to let it go through.

OP thinks she might be the a-hole for the following reasons:

Here's how the Reddit community reacted to u/Relative_Attempt6316's post:

The gifts are normally returned if things don't work out.

People are only willing to spend that much on a gift because of the wedding.

If she is planning to keep all the gifts she will be scandalized.

"MIL and SIL are being tacky."

It's greedy and cruel to make a family member feel that way.

You either get married or you don't. There's no in-between.

The SIL needs support not expensive gifts.

That's a lot of pressure to put on someone.

OP had every right to cancel the order.

If she feels bad about the situation, she can buy her an expensive gift.

OP saved her SIL the hassle of returning the gift.

If the wedding was canceled, so should the gifts.

It's greedy of them to make such a request.

This kind of attitude must have contributed to the wedding being canceled.

The marriage never happened, and the SIL should not be expecting gifts.

The MIL can spend that money herself if it's so important for her.

OP had every right to cancel the order containing the wedding gift. The gifts are supposed to be returned if the wedding is canceled and SIL should normally be aware of that.

It was not fair for her to put OP in this position. If you enjoyed reading this, make sure to check out similar content on our platform.

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