Successful Young Businessman Considers Sending Money To His Estranged Mother After More Than A Decade Of No Contact, Asks Redditors To Weigh In

She kicked him out when he was 17 years old because he couldn't get along with her new boyfriend

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• June 27, 2023

People who use other people for their benefit have the uncanny ability to sniff out where the money is hidden. A 29-year-old successful businessman had a blast from his past after reconnecting with his mother.

OP was 17 years old when his mom left his dad for another guy. OP's mom told him to leave her house after his multiple disagreements with her new boyfriend.

Something broke in OP when his mom kicked him out. To this day, OP finds it difficult to even think about forgiving his mom for what she did to him and his dad.

OP moved in with his dad, who, by then, was living with his parents. A year later, OP's dad got a call from OP's 14-year-old sister, who asked if she could also live with them because their mom's house was intolerable.

OP knew how close his sister was to their mom. Her asking to move in with them meant that the situation at their mom's home was worse than what OP predicted.

When OP was 18, his grandparents encouraged him to start a business after seeing his talent and skill in constructing specialized tools. They remortgaged their home to give OP the capital he needed.

At 24 years old, OP landed his first few national contracts. His business has been growing steadily since then, and OP is now a certifiable multimillionaire.

OP, his sister, dad, and grandparents all now live in the east coast with a charmed life

OP has a strong support system filled with people who have seen him make something of himself.

OP couldn't fathom how fortunate he is after what he went through because of his mom

His mom has been contacting him for a few years now. She's asking him to build a relationship with her and her kids after seeing the privileges his money opened up for his sister.

She told him that he should at least help out with her kids even if he can't forgive her. OP doesn't think that's his obligation, but his guilt is eating him alive.

The timing of contacting OP is highly suspicious and an education fund sounds better than just sending money to his estranged mom

OP's pain is palpable throughout this post. Buying his mom's love and approval won't do him any good.

She ceased being his family the moment she chose her boyfriend over him. OP was 17 years old when she kicked him out. He was a child.

Since his sister knows their mom better, OP should trust her judgment and follow her lead on this

Wealth has everything to do with this. OP's mom wants him to "look out" for her innocent children. That means financially supporting them.

She's the mom of those innocent kids she is using to manipulate OP. She and her husband are responsible for them.

"It's unfortunate for her other kids that they have her as a mother." It would be funny if it wasn't true.

Yes, they are OP's half-siblings but they never had a meaningful relationship. There wasn't enough time to form a bond because OP was kicked out of his mom's house!

They can't miss what they never had. It would be sh*tty of OP's mom if she already promised her two kids that OP will help them out. Even then, it's not OP's fault.

Therapy is will cost less than what OP's mom will manipulate out of him

OP owes his mom nothing. She showed him early on how much she valued him when she kicked him out to keep her new boyfriend calm.

The success OP has now is because of the support of his grandparents, dad, sister, and friends. OP should consider therapy if his guilt over his mom's manipulation persists.

Chelsi