Son Honors Father's Last Wish With Brutally Honest Eulogy, Stirring Family Chaos

He wrote his own eulogy because he wanted everything out in the open once she had nothing to hold over him.

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• November 23, 2023

Losing someone and dealing with family drama can be tough. When a loved one passes away, especially a parent, the aftermath can be a blend of grief, relief, unresolved tensions, and sometimes, revelations that shake the very foundation of a family's understanding of each other.

This 24-year-old guy, OP of this story, had to deal with a lot when his dad passed away. His dad was a great father, always there for his kids, showing up at their activities, and even letting his daughter paint his nails.

But, he wasn't a good husband. He cheated on his wife a lot because she wasn't interested in him anymore.

Their family life was pretty messed up. The dad gave his wife money to handle the bills, and she let him do his thing, which included cheating. When he was about to die, he wrote his eulogy and wanted everything out in the open.

OP agreed to read this eulogy at the funeral. It was funny but also very honest and a bit rude, just like his dad. Some family members thought it was hilarious, while others, especially his mom, were really mad.

His mom even threatened to keep him away from his sisters, but they're all sticking together. OP is wondering if he did the right thing by reading the eulogy and following his dad's wishes, even though it caused a lot of drama.

It's a tough situation where he has to choose between keeping peace in the family and being honest about his dad's life.

OP's dad passed away, he was a hardworking and dedicated father who supported his family.

OP's dad had a troubled marriage with OP's mom, they were like business partners.

OP's dad penned his own eulogy to share everything openly as a final act and OP agreed to deliver it as his dying wish.

OP's mom is angry about some revelations, calling OP names and threatening to keep his sisters away from him.

Honoring your father in this way is great, but if OP declined, he'd have found someone else.

OP provided him with a taste of poetic justice, even if it's only through words.

OP is not in the wrong.

It's understandable why OP's grandparents might have felt uncomfortable.

OP shouldn't feel guilty for telling the truth, even if it embarrassed her.

OP didn't say anything negative about the deceased; he actually spoke positively for him.

OP needs to consider his mother's perspective and the challenges she may have faced.

The truth eventually surfaces, and it seems like OP's mom and her parents are upset because their hidden issues have been exposed.

OP simply read his dying father's final message, and he didn't write it himself.

OP was fulfilling his father's last wish by reading the eulogy at the funeral, and this decision should be respected. It's evident that the father wanted to have his life, with all its imperfections and complexities, acknowledged and discussed openly.

While this might have caused discomfort and discord among some family members, it was a genuine expression of the father's personality and wishes. OP's decision to read the eulogy should be seen as a heartfelt attempt to fulfill his father's wishes and provide closure, even if it came with its share of challenges and disagreements within the family.

Damjan