Dad Sparks Family War By Denying His Daughter The Honor Of Walking Down The Aisle In Late Mother’s Wedding Dress

“This is ridiculous; you can’t even fit into it!”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• June 11, 2024

When it comes to weddings, emotions can run higher than the bouquet toss at the reception. In this tale, we have a father, still grieving his late wife, now caught in the middle of a dress debacle involving his daughter’s upcoming marriage. Let's dive in, shall we?

To give you some context, our narrator’s (Original Poster’s) wife was a petite woman. She tipped the scales at a mere 115 pounds on their wedding day, and her dress, of course, matched her delicate frame. 

Sadly, she passed away two years ago, meaning she couldn’t be there to see their daughter walk down the aisle in 2025.

Now, here’s where things get tricky. OP’s daughter expressed a heartfelt wish to wear her mother's wedding dress. A beautiful sentiment, but he had to gently point out the obvious: she wouldn’t be able to fit into it—it’s noteworthy to mention that his daughter was a bit overweight.

She suggested resizing it, so OP did a bit of research. He found out this involved essentially cutting it up—It was all he could do not to audibly gasp out in horror.

He made it clear such alterations were completely out of the question. This led to an explosive argument where his daughter accused him of gatekeeping her mother's possessions.

He offered her some of her mother’s jewelry as a compromise. But the damage was done—she hung up in frustration.

OP found himself in the crosshairs not just of his daughter but also of his sons, who urged him to relent. The heat was rising by the hour, and OP was left wondering—was he, maybe, the jerk here?

Let’s dig into the details

OP’s late wife was of a small statue and it reflected in her size of wedding dress. However, with OP’s daughter's upcoming wedding, she wants to wear her late mom’s wedding dress which is not her size.

OP refused to let his daughter have her late mom’s wedding dress as wearing it meant cutting up the dress to fit her. This decision led to an argument between them.

OP is certain his late wife would have preferred to go dress shopping with her daughter instead because she  loved her dress.

Check out some interesting comments below:

“The dress might be better used as part of your daughter's wedding dress to honor her mother rather than sitting in the closet.”

“Not every person who saves their wedding dress intends to pass it down or give it to a relative to wear later on.”

“It’s your wife’s dress so of course it’s yours to decide what to do with. I’m sure it holds a lot of sentimentality for you.”

“Considering she passed away and they’re forcing you to give it up is disrespectful.”

“You have more than one daughter… why does one get to destroy the dress, what about the other/s?”

“YWBTA though if you don't find some way to compromise with her though as having a piece of her mother with her on her wedding day, especially when she lost her mother so recently, is clearly important to your daughter.”

“You don't want to "destroy" your wifes dress that obviously means a lot to you. But the dress also means a lot to your daughter.”

In a bid for clarity, OP recalled how much his late wife adored her wedding dress—she definitely wouldn’t have wanted it cut apart. 

This memory solidified his resolve, and Redditors really couldn’t blame him for wanting to preserve a piece of her. Plus, there was the impracticality of sizing up a dress to that extent. We do hope they come to an amicable resolution.

Do you agree with the commenters? Share your thoughts with us.

Jesse