Bridesmaid Furious At Bride For Secretly Buying ‘Backup' Dress, Fearing She'd Be 'Too Fat' For Her First Choice

The wedding dress drama that turned friends against each-other.

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• June 11, 2024

Weddings are supposed to be a time of joy, laughter, and, let’s face it, a bit of chaos – though not the kind that pits close friends against each other. But that’s exactly what happened in the months leading to the special day of one bride-to-be.

Our narrator (Original Poster) was set to tie the knot this year, and she asked a close high school friend to join the wedding party. They’d been friends through thick and thin and had made it through decades without a single fight—Imagine that!

Obviously, her friend was honored to grace the occasion as an esteemed bridesmaid. The stars were aligned, and all was going smoothly—that is, until a dress-size dilemma brought an end to their decade-long streak of zero fights.

You see, OP’s friend had a history of bouncing between weights at an alarming frequency. She decided to use the wedding as her ultimate fitness motivation by buying a dress three sizes too small and vowing to fit into it before the D-day.

OP thought this was pretty extreme, but she supported her friend nonetheless. Fast forward a few months, and the wedding date was fast approaching; progress on the weight-loss front was, however, less than spectacular. 

Sensing impending disaster, OP quietly bought the same dress in a larger size. Disaster averted, right? Wrong. When the bridesmaid confessed in tears that she couldn’t fit into her dress, OP revealed her secret backup plan. 

Things got a little awkward when instead of gratitude, the bridesmaid exploded in anger. She accused OP of not believing in her, and now their friendship was on the rocks. 

Mutual friends were tagging OP the AH, and her friend also threatened to drop out of the bridal party. Was OP really a bad friend for preparing for the worst while hoping for the best?

The story in detail

For her upcoming wedding, OP invited her long-time friend to be at her wedding party. Interestingly, OP’s friend had been going through a cycle where she would gain weight and lose weight at intervals

Upon the request to be her bridesmaid, OP’s friend bought her dress in a smaller size with the hope of losing weight. However, on seeing that her friend wasn’t making progress in losing weight, she quietly got her the exact same dress in a large size

Eventually, OP’s friend informed her that she could not achieve her goal of losing weight and could not buy another dress since the wedding attire was sold out. OP finally admitted that she secretly bought the dress in her size and was willing to give it to her.

Upon hearing the correct dress size was secretly bought for her, OP’s friend was upset. She accused OP of never believing in her and threatened to drop out of the wedding party.

We gathered some interesting comments from Netizens:

“I think OP was being a good friend. Don’t buy into the drama.“

“I think she was being a bad friend from how she behaved. Playing fast and loose with your wedding isn't okay.”

“You cared enough to offer a free safety net, and she’s mad that she needs it? That’s her issue.”

“Trying to lose 3 dress sizes before the wedding is insane.”

“As far as I can see you've saved the day, her behaving all butt hurt because you were a realist is ridiculous.”

“So long as you didn't make any comments or criticism to go with it, buying a backup was a kind thing to do.”

This story is a classic example of good intentions clashing with personal insecurities and leaving a trail of hurt feelings. Ultimately, weddings are stressful enough without the added drama of dress sizes and hurt pride. 

The moral of the story? In the wild world of wedding planning, you might want to strap in and brace for the unexpected—it’ll definitely come.

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Jesse