Redditors Urge A Bride-To-Be Not To Postpone Her Wedding For Her Pregnant Sister Who Is Having A Child With The Bride's Ex-Boyfriend

The bride and her sister no longer speak after the latter had an affair with the bride's then boyfriend

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• June 24, 2023

Messy family drama is the bread and butter of Reddit's Am I The A**hole community. Reading about other people's relationship dilemmas and weighing in on them is what the subreddit is all about.

A bride-to-be posted about a last-minute hiccup for her upcoming nuptials caused by her mom and sister. OP has been planning her big day for the past year.

She had successfully planned everything without any issues, but her lucky streak broke after one phone call with her mom. OP's mom asked her to postpone her wedding for a month.

Apparently, OP's sister asked their mom to be with her the whole month of her due date since she is having her first baby. Side note: OP's sister has a child with OP's ex-boyfriend, whom she began dating while he and OP were still together.

Needless to say, OP and her sister have no relationship to speak of after that stinging betrayal. It is understandable that OP didn't want to postpone her wedding for a month for a sister she has no relationship with.

OP told her mom to choose who she wanted to support between the two of them. Her mom said that was unfair of OP since she is basically being forced to make an impossible decision.

Their other relatives are also asking OP to just postpone her wedding

OP says she understands why her sister needs the support, but she also wants their mom to be there for her on her wedding day

OP spent a year planning her wedding, should she postpone for the sake of her sister?

OP would definitely lose all of the deposits she paid if she moves her wedding date this close

Is it really impossible for their mom to attend the wedding and still be there for her other daughter after the event?

Asking this close to the wedding was just inconsiderate. That's ignoring the fact that the person she is having a child with is OP's ex-boyfriend.

If mom refuses to fly, then their mom really has to make a choice

OP's sister has an obsession with stealing anything important to OP

OP can take the high road and avoid all the stress from a drama that she didn't cause

They should. OP's wedding is not about them. If they don't want to be there for her, then they should be there.

Do you think the timing of her pregnancy is also suspicious?

The only person being repeatedly hurt here is OP, just to be clear

It's not OP who is making things difficult for them

Asking OP to postpone her wedding so close to the date is no accident on her sister's part. She wanted to throw OP in for a loop and cause her more pain than she already has.

She has no relationship to the person causing this drama, OP has no obligation to consider her needs when she clearly doesn't respect OP's

OP is asking for her mom's support for a day, but even that was too much, apparently

No matter what date OP moves her wedding to, her sister will find a way to screw it up

It actually is, especially if they know about their rocky history

The audacity this woman has. She's not done hurting OP after all the harm she already caused.

They also had to make OP feel like she should shoulder all the guilt in this situation when she caused none of the issues is astounding

OP's not the one pulling their mom in both directions. It's her incosiderate sister causing all of this last-minute problems.

OP posted an update. It's pretty clear that OP is aware what kind of person her mom is and her choice would just be a confirmation of what OP already knows about her.

OP is so near her wedding date to worry about petty rivalries that don't concern her. Postponing the wedding for a sister she doesn't speak to shouldn't have been brought up in the first place.

OP has no obligation to her sister after everything that happened between them. She should be surrounded by people who love and uplift her on her wedding day... her mom has to make a choice if she is one of those people.

Chelsi