Bride Leaves Her Wedding After Being Humiliated And Disrespected
She was shown no respect from the priest and her future mother-in-law.
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- Published in Interesting
Relationships can be incredibly complicated, especially when families get involved and exert control over one's life. This Reddit story highlights the struggles faced by a Canadian woman of Iranian descent who was engaged to an Iraqi man.
While being from different cultural backgrounds shouldn't be an obstacle, it seems that their families' interference and differing expectations became overwhelming. From the start, OP faced numerous challenges with her fiancé's family.
They imposed strict rules, such as discouraging her from working or dyeing her hair with certain colors. They even tried to prevent her from pursuing her post-graduate studies. It felt as though they wanted to control every aspect of her life.
What made matters worse was that her partner, although a good person, allowed his mother to dictate the terms of their relationship. Financial struggles also plagued the couple.
Her partner didn't earn enough money to support himself, let alone their future together. This meant that after getting married, they would have to live in his parent's basement.
This situation created tension, as OP wanted independence and to make her own choices. Every visit to her partner's house was filled with anxiety, with his extended family ready to criticize her every move. Even something as simple as taking a shower became a cause for judgment based on her ethnicity.
Despite these difficulties, OP stayed hopeful that saving money would eventually allow them to live independently. However, the breaking point came on their wedding day.
She agreed to have the ceremony in his church but insisted it is conducted in English since she didn't speak Aramaic. To her surprise, the church staff and the priest refused to speak English to her, leaving her feeling excluded and disrespected.
Feeling trapped and overwhelmed by the manipulative dynamics and her fiancé's lack of support, the woman made a difficult decision. She left the wedding ceremony, realizing at that moment that she would be entering a life of living with manipulative in-laws and a husband who failed to stand up for her.
OP is Iranian and she was supposed to marry her fiance
u/walkoutstory3OP's partner is a great person but OP had issues with his mother, who would interfere with their relationship
u/walkoutstory3The partner never did anything to stand up for OP and protect her
u/walkoutstory3OP insisted that the priest and the church staff speak English, but they didn't
u/walkoutstory3OP was shamed for the dress that she decided to wear because her shoulders were showing
u/walkoutstory3OP realized that if she went through with the wedding, she'd be stuck living with a manipulative family
u/walkoutstory3OP left the wedding and now she feels guilty about hurting her partner
u/walkoutstory3Consider it a blessing
u/CrochetWhaleShe realized what her future would look like
u/rakneBetter now than later
u/strange_dog_TVCultural differences and family expectations can place immense pressure on a relationship. Ultimately, OP's decision to prioritize her well-being and happiness is commendable.
It takes courage to walk away from a situation that feels suffocating and unfulfilling. While it may be painful in the short term, it opens the possibility for a future where she can find a partner who truly supports and respects her.