Bride-To-Be Faces Dilemma With Friend's Chosen Funeral Music Possibly Playing At Her Wedding

"Apparently saying 'We'll see who gets to use it first,' wasn't the answer she was looking for."

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• January 13, 2024

A terminally ill cancer patient was planning their funeral when one of their friends objected to their music choices for the ceremony. OP opted not to get treatment after their doctors gave them a dire prognosis.

They said they would rather have one decent year than two bad ones. To avoid leaving loose ends, OP began planning their funeral.

OP chose songs for the funeral that meant a lot to them. OP had conversations with a few people who criticized their music choices.

One friend objected to OP using a song that she wanted to use for her wedding. She told OP she did not want their friends bawling when the song played at her wedding.

OP was accused of stealing the future bride's thunder. Another song that received mixed reactions was "Bare Necessities" from the Disney film "Jungle Book."

OP has had the nickname Baloo for more than twenty years. They've sang the song to and with the kids in their family.

It is not far-fetched for OP to use the song at their funeral. OP wondered if their song choices were inappropriate after a few friends objected to them.

Would OP's use of "Bare Necessities" ruin a children's movie for other people? Should their friends take a step back and re-evaluate how they chose to spend OP's last year?

OP said in an edit that they pre-planned their funeral to mitigate further stress to their family.

OP used a throwaway account to ask for advice.

Their original post was dated two years ago. The account has since been deleted.

For those curious, OP shared the rest of their funeral playlist.

It adds another layer of "ick" if OP's friend was not even engaged when she made all this fuss.

OP's sense of humor about the entire thing was top-notch. "We'll see who gets to use it first," was the perfect response.

OP probably curated an entirely different playlist for their pre-funeral party.

It must have been one heck of a party!

That friend cringes every time she hears a song that played at OP's funeral, but not because of its association with OP. She cringes because of how selfishly reacted to her dying friend's funeral song choices.

How dare OP make their funeral about themself?

They wasted OP's time arguing over petty stuff they won't even remember.

Hopefully, OP didn't lose any sleep over this debate.

They should have taken a few deep breaths and thought about how they were choosing to spend time with OP.

Associating a song with memories of a loved one wouldn't ruin the song.

Posts like OP's are always a little breathtaking to read.

OP had time to make peace with their reality. They lived as best as they could, though short it may be.

We can give OP's friends the benefit of the doubt. They probably were dealing with OP's news and took offense to their song choices because anger was easier to handle than grief.

Still, policing OP's funeral playlist was a questionable choice. I hope OP had a great time with the people they loved for as long as they could.

Chelsi