Young Woman Asks If She Was Wrong Not To Buy Her Boyfriend Another Slice Of Pizza At Concert She Paid For, Realizes He's An Abusive Mooch After Multiple Posts

In a span of two months he made her feel bad for reminding him of his debt, read her diary, accused her of not holding him accountable, and left without a message

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• November 5, 2023

Another couple is about to break up because of money issues. OP and her boyfriend's argument was about an entirely different issue.

Her 29-year-old boyfriend complained that the 28-year-old OP is not affectionate enough. It's a recurring argument, and OP promised, as she did before, to work on her issue.

Her boyfriend wasn't done speaking his grievances. He brought up how he felt about the concert they attended the night before.

At the venue, OP realized how expensive the food was. A slice of pizza cost $9, so she told her boyfriend that they should just each get a piece.

OP knew she was paying since her boyfriend was saving for a medical procedure, and she earned more than he did. During their fight, OP's boyfriend told her that he got pissed when OP didn't "allow" him to get more than one slice of pizza.

He also, apparently, hated going out in public with OP. He compared how affectionate other couples were, and OP came up short.

OP got upset with her boyfriend's complaints. She was more conscious of her spending because she spent her money on a new car a week ago to replace her old one.

OP was bothered that her boyfriend expected her to pay for his food. In the grand scheme of things, $9 on a slice of pizza isn't a bank-breaking amount.

However, she paid for their concert tickets, beer, snow cones, and pizzas. OP knew it was wrong, but in her emotional state, she felt compelled to list how much she spent on him.

OP mentioned the $250 he owed her and how she never asked him to pay it back. OP felt her boyfriend was careless with her money.

He spends a copious amount of money online shopping instead of paying what he owed.

He said he needed to buy things for himself from time to time to ease his depression.

When OP mentioned what he owed, her boyfriend replied, "Well, I guess I'll have to cancel my medical procedure because you just have to have your $250 back."

He tried to emotionally manipulate her by saying, "I thought I could trust you. I thought you were a nice person. I guess I was wrong. There's no coming back from this."

He left OP's apartment after saying his piece. OP felt like an a**hole but was she wrong to bring up his debt and everything else she spent on him?

"One can only hope," another commenter replied

The moment OP tried to question HIS actions, he deflected and made everything her fault

If OP doesn't break up with this guy, he will repeatedly manipulate her into thinking she needs to apologize for his wrongdoings

He is using OP. When he realized she was starting to question their arrangement, he attacked her to return the status quo. She's the terrible person, and he's the victim.

He couldn't spare $9 for a pizza when his girlfriend bought everything else for their concert experience?

He's a jerk to make OP feel bad about a $9 pizza when she already spent too much on him

10 days later, OP was back in the subreddit about another boyfriend dilemma.

This time he read her diary without her permission and didn't like what she wrote about him

Two weeks later, he got mad at OP for not giving him opportunities to be remorseful after she complained that he doesn't apologize for his mistakes

He dismissed her feelings and called them excuses. He said OP was wrong to feel dismissed because if she knew what kind of person he was, she wouldn't think that way about him.

He thinks OP is determined to make him out to be the bad guy. OP believes there's still hope for their relationship.

Four days later, OP posted that her boyfriend hasn't texted her since their argument and got this response.

OP's entire Reddit account is filled with posts about her boyfriend making himself the victim to guilt OP into doing what he wants.

OP said the Redditors helped her realize she was stuck in a cycle of abuse with her boyfriend

She was so caught up in their relationship that she started to doubt her own instincts

Her boyfriend was such a convincing manipulator that OP believed she was wrong to feel things

It's difficult to see the truth when someone has been intentionally warping it to further their own agenda. OP needed the perspective of outsiders to shake her awake.

Reading her continuous posts about his manipulation was so concerning. Without Redditors' intervention, OP would have spent years of her life catering to her jerk of an ex-boyfriend.

Chelsi