Lady Set To Pull The Plug On Year-Long Relationship After Boyfriend Confesses To “Missing The Thrill” Of Single Life

“I no longer feel secure in this relationship.”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• December 7, 2023

A unique ritual characterized our narrator (Original Poster) and her boyfriend’s relationship—“Monthly relationship check-ups,” they called it. 

It was OP’s boyfriend’s bright idea: a sacred space where they unraveled their feelings, ensured the relationship was on the right track, and sketched the blueprint for the future.

In the one year they’d been together, no significant issues came up during these check-ins. There was the odd miscommunication and even libido discrepancies, but nothing that couldn’t be fixed.

OP was confident her boyfriend loved her very much, and it had been smooth sailing so far—well, that was until their May check-in. 

She knew her boyfriend had commitment issues of some sort—he was constantly hopping from job to job, never quite satisfied with what was in front of him, always seeking the next thrill. He’d even admitted he’d love to move far away and become a potential nomad.

Initially, this penchant for instability didn’t sit right with OP, but over time, he put her worries at ease. He was also working through it with a therapist. 

However, her boyfriend shared some thoughts during the check-up that made her confidence waver. He confessed he missed the freedom of being single—it wasn’t about pursuing intimacy with other parties for him but for the thrill of unpredictability. 

OP couldn’t have felt more differently. She loved the stability of a relationship: shared hobbies, having someone to count on—she wouldn’t trade it for anything. 

Doubts that once lingered in the periphery now took center stage. Was the relationship worth continuing at this point?

The story in detail

A bit of background

OP’s boyfriend revealed that he misses the thrill of being single

Ever since the revelation, OP has developed doubts about their relationship

Here’s how the Reddit community reacted to this story:

“Have another check-in talk with him. Tell him what you said in the last half of your fifth paragraph.”

“To me, this sounds like another aspect of his chronic dissatisfaction, and not something specific with you.“

“You are wayyyy too young to settle for a love that isn’t fulfilling.”

“You can miss aspects of your life pre partner, that’s a completely normal thing. Doesn’t mean the love isn’t there.”

“He sounds wishy washy and can’t commit to anything because he gets bored easily.”

“Breaking up is probably the best course of action.“

“I do not think you’ll ever be in a long-term relationship where the other person doesn’t miss certain things about their old life.”

“My advice is to remember what people do matters a lot more then what they think.“

Redditors advised OP to stage an “SOS check-in” session with her boyfriend and lay everything down. 

She should explain that while she had lots of fun being single, she appreciated their journey together even more and wouldn't trade it for some unpredictable thrill fest—and she deserved and expected nothing less from her partner.

The digital jury collectively agreed that if he couldn’t love her the way she wanted to be loved, there was no point moving forward with the relationship. 

Do you agree with this verdict? Let us know in the comments. 

Jesse