Doing his chores or finishing the half-assed one became a daily part of OP's routine. She's getting tired of picking up after him.
She asked him to make reminders on his phone but he said they add unnecessary pressure
So, OP made him a child-approved chore chart complete with a space for smiley faces. He didn't like it one bit and accused her of humiliating him.
OP said the chart is a last resort. Her other suggestions didn't work and accomplishing his unfinished tasks for him just made him angry. OP basically ran out of options.
Was the chart ableist like one commenter alluded to?
OP said the list was simply the last trick in her hat. She's exhausted every other option and nothing worked for her boyfriend.
Some sympathized with OP's boyfriend and understood why he felt humiliated by the brightly colored chore chart
OP meant for the chart to be childish because of her boyfriend's continuous dependence on her to even start his chores
If he shows no willingness to manage his ADHD, then OP needs to rethink her future with him
He was probably mortified that OP had to do that for him. Instead of looking inwards, he lashed out and blamed her for how he felt.
His pride and ego are apparently greater than becoming a considerate partner
The fact that he moved in with her and basically became a child for OP to look after is enough reason for him to feel embarrassed
He shuts down every suggestion OP gives. At some point, she has to realize that he just doesn't want to do the work.
He's motivated to complete his tasks at work. Which means he found a strategy to follow through. Where is that initiative at home?
I wonder how he lived before he moved in with OP
If OP made a grey and adult-looking chore chart, would he have reacted differently?
I was taken aback when someone suggested rewarding him with sex to motivate him to do his chart
OP has been an incredible partner to her boyfriend so far. She acknowledged how his ADHD affected his day-to-day life.
She attempted to help him find a workaround or a strategy to improve his executive functioning skills. OP put his needs above hers; it's time to prioritize herself.