Girlfriend Wants A Special Trip With Her Boyfriend To Celebrate Their Birthdays But He Hesitates Because Of A Years-Long Birthday Tradition With His Roommate On The Same Weekend

The OP wonders if it's because they're both Leos

Chelsi

• Published in Interesting
• June 15, 2023

Minor issues left unaddressed can cause constant tension in a relationship. These issues eventually pile up and can wreak havoc in even the most stable relationships.

The best way to avoid the inevitable fallout is to communicate with your significant other. Tell them what's bothering you before the seemingly petty things cause irreparable damage to the relationship.

A 30-year-old Redditor evidently knew how important communication is when she talked to her boyfriend about her expectations for her birthday. OP professed her love for her 32-year-old SO and told Redditors that she didn't want their petty fight to be the reason for a breakup.

OP's and her boyfriend's birthdays are only a few days apart from each other. She mentioned during a conversation that she wanted them to take a weekend trip for their birthdays.

OP said she thought the joint celebration would be great as this is their first year together as a couple. Her boyfriend replied that he and his roommate have had a birthday tradition for the past five years.

They have been throwing a party together to celebrate both of their birthdays. They have a tentative date this year, which falls on OP's actual birthday.

Her boyfriend reassured her that the plan was not final yet. However, he said that he would be more than happy to include OP in the joint birthday party celebration.

OP asked her boyfriend if she can talk to his roommate to ask if he would be willing to move the party the following weekend so it won't be in conflict with her own birthday

OP told her boyfriend that even if the trip didn't push through, she still wanted him to be a part of her birthday and do something special to mark the celebration

Her boyfriend said he will talk to his roommate but empasized that the joint birthday party has been a long-standing tradition of theirs. He canceled on their date the following day and OP felt that it had something to do with their conversation the night prior.

Technically, OP isn't asking her boyfriend to break his roommate tradition since they typically throw the party the weekend before or after their birthdays

OP said her boyfriend was caught off guard after realizing he missed that her birthday fell on one of the weekends he and his roommate typically do their birthday tradition

Redditors cautioned OP to observe how her boyfriend handles the inevitable conversation they'll have since what she asked for is more than reasonable

They also noted that they've just been together for a year and they're supposed to still have their rose-colored glasses on

They have a simple problem that can be solved by having a mature conversation before it becomes a huge issue

OP knows that. Clearly, they had different expectations about what they do on their birthdays and it just didn't come up in their year-long relationship. They just need to talk to each other.

OP did admit that her boyfriend was caught off guard when he realized he overlooked her birthday

They are both adults who are more than capable of making their own choices. His handling of the issue will tell OP how important she is in her boyfriend's eyes.

OP can try a different approach if she's set on celebrating her birthday with her boyfriend

On the other hand, is OP willing to compromise if her boyfriend and his roommate can't find a way to reschedule the birthday tradition?

OP said she is more than willing to meet her boyfriend halfway because as she said on her original post, this isn't the hill she's willing to die on

OP and her boyfriend had a pleasant conversation. He and his roommate will move their party to the weekend before OP's birthday and they will also go on a trip that OP originally wanted.

OP didn't really need help on how to approach her boyfriend. She went on Reddit to get some clarity and insight she might have missed because she's too close to the issue.

She seems to be in a mature relationship with a guy who isn't scared of compromises. May the three of them have incredible birthdays ahead!

Chelsi