Concerned Girlfriend Asks For Advice On How To Confront Her Boyfriend After She Was Sent Video Of Him Being Assaulted

"The video is evidence of assault."

Stephanie

• Published in Interesting
• November 21, 2023

What would you do if you were sent a video of the person you love the most being hurt and humiliated? Well, that's the situation Reddit user u/superstealthyandslik found herself in recently, and she shared the story in the r/relationships subreddit.

The OP explained that she and her boyfriend have been together for four years, and have always been very open with each other. She says that her boyfriend sometimes goes out with friends for drinks, but she has never had any reason to be concerned about it until recently.

The OP received a text message from a number she didn't know. It was a video of her boyfriend at a house party.

He was clearly very drunk, and there was a group of around 15 people that the OP didn't recognize, pushing him around, holding him down, and pouring alcohol into his mouth until he gagged. They held his arms behind his back and kept messing with him until he was in tears and appeared to be physically sick.

The OP says her boyfriend was visibly distressed, and the video made her feel sick. But her boyfriend hasn't mentioned anything about it to her, so she's wondering how she can bring it up to him.

So, the OP turned to the Reddit community for advice. Keep scrolling to see how people reacted.

The Redditor asked for advice on how to talk to her boyfriend about a video she saw of him being harassed at a party.

She explained that she and her boyfriend have been dating for four years, and they are always open with each other.

The OP says she received a text from a number she didn't know.

It was a video of the OP's boyfriend being harassed by a group of people at a party.

The minute-long video was disturbing, and the OP says it made her feel ill.

The Redditor says she's not sure how to bring it up with her boyfriend.

Now the OP is asking the Reddit community for advice.

TLDR

Here's how people reacted.

"There's a chance the person who sent it was disturbed by it but too weak to intervene."

Ask for their names!

"Very disturbing behavior."

Hope they're prepared to be charged.

"I'm not sure it was to shame him."

Perhaps he's in on it.

Forget about his ego.

This is serious!

"The video is evidence of assault."

"It's important you show him."

You need to "identify the other people in the video."

"It's possible he doesn't even remember it."

What are your thoughts on this situation? Do you think the OP needs to confront her boyfriend about the video, or should she leave it well enough alone?

It's certainly a disturbing situation, and it's understandable that the OP would be worried for her boyfriend's safety. After all, it seems he was assaulted by the people in the video and was visibly distressed from the small clip the OP saw.

We would love to hear your opinions on this. You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section.

Stephanie