Concerned Woman Suspects Boyfriend Has Feelings For Her Friend
"I spoke to another girl who’s usually there as well and she thinks so too so I know I’m not imagining things."
Dealing with the worry that your partner likes someone else is a tough spot that many people find themselves in. This kind of doubt, which we often brush off as just being insecure, can be a big deal and affect us a lot.
This kind of situation is exactly what a young woman shared on Reddit. She's worried that her boyfriend, who she's been with for two years, has a crush on one of her friends.
The story goes like this: the girl's boyfriend is usually a friendly guy, which never seemed like a problem until it came to how he acted around her friend. He paid a lot more attention to this friend than to other people.
He always talked about how she looked, even comparing her to his girlfriend. Whenever they were all hanging out together, he would always be super interested in everything this girl did or said.
When the girlfriend brought it up, he said he was just being friendly and didn’t have a crush on her. But it's not so simple.
The friend he seems to like is dating his cousin, so it’s not like he can just go after her. Despite this, he still seems really into her.
OP even talked to another friend who agreed that something was off. So now, OP is stuck not knowing what to do. She feels that her boyfriend might be unintentionally showing that he likes her friend.
OP is concerned that her boyfriend may be in love with her friend.
He acts differently around her, compliments her, and talks about her a lot, but he denies any romantic feelings.
OP talked to another girl who also noticed this, so she is not imagining things, but she's unsure about what to do in this situation.
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Regardless of his intentions, this behavior is unacceptable and should be addressed directly.
The key point is that passive flirting can turn into active flirting.
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OP deserves better, and he'll likely find someone else.
OP should take control of her self-respect, make a decision, and stick to it.
OP shouldn't waste her time on someone who disrespects her.
OP should find someone who appreciates and respects her instead of waiting for things to change.
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OP needs to discuss her concerns with him.
OP doesn't have to tolerate being treated as a second choice.
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He seems obsessed with her because he can't have her.
OP has a valid reason to be worried about her boyfriend's behavior around her friend. He might have feelings for this friend, but he might not even realize it or want to admit it to OP.
To sort things out, they need to talk about what's going on. If, even after talking, OP still feels uncomfortable or unsure about the relationship, it might be best for her to consider ending it.
Good relationships are based on trust, talking openly, and treating each other well. If these things are missing, it's worth thinking about whether the relationship is healthy.
