Dad Makes Absurd Suggestions After His Son Told Him Their Wedding Contribution Wouldn't Be Enough, Gets Walked Out

"This seems insane and extravagant to me"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• February 29, 2024

Nowadays, weddings all around the world are bigger and more costly than they were in the past. The main justification is that it encourages more interpersonal interaction and one-on-one communication.

A couple's marriage is a reason to celebrate their happiness together with friends and family. In contrast to earlier times, families now lavish a great deal of money and effort on wedding celebrations.

In order to put together all the things required for the day to be amazing, hosting this significant life milestone frequently requires a significant cost. So it’s not uncommon for couples and often their parents or loved ones who are contributing financially to the celebrations to have a bit of 'sticker shock’ with costs when they begin wedding planning.

The venue is one of the costs that could cause the biggest sticker shock. When entertaining more people, you'll need a place that can accommodate both your desired design and the number of guests.

OP's son is getting married, and culture dictates that he and the bride's father share the costs of their wedding. The bride's father proposed providing $10k each, which is a $20k budget.

The OP could afford this, but he found it to be insane and extravagant, so he said he'd be giving half. OP's son told him that the money wouldn't be enough as the venue cost alone took half of the money.

Still, OP believed that his son was just spoiled and that he ought to manage. Read the entire story for yourself below.

The OP writes

The OP figured that him and his soon-to-be wife would have to pay for some of the wedding

OP suggested ordering pizzas or sub sandwiches but he looked at him like he was crazy

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I may be the a-hole for telling my son he and his fiancée are being spoiled. This might make me the asshole because I only said this due to being hurt by his comments and because I was rude.

The Reddit post went viral with 14k upvotes and more than 7k comments

This Redditor is wondering if the OP lives under a rock

How they choose to spend their money isn't the OP's business

The OP isn't obligated to give his son any money

They are not being spoiled but the OP is being stingy

The OP's being invested with one part of the cultural tradition

OP's suggestion was not it at all

The OP got the best of everything

OP's son is talking about a wedding that cheaper than his

Even though the wedding itself may only last a day or two, the labor of love that goes into planning it needs more resources than any other celebration—that is, more time and money. OP's son and future DIL aren't spoilt as they handled this classily.

Redditors said that they expressed their willingness to cover a portion of the wedding expenses themselves and even thanked the OP for his contributions. It was inappropriate of the OP to call them spoiled, and he was declared the AH.

Maryjane