Woman Asks The Internet To Tell Her If She Was Wrong For Not Wanting Her Husband’s Brother In The Delivery Room

Her BIL is a med student...

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• December 12, 2021

We all love our families. We all want and need them around during all important events in our lives.

But do we need ALL family members around during childbirth? One Reddit user faced that problem.

She is pregnant with twins and has a brother-in-law who is a med student specializing in ObGyn. They have been close since she, her husband, and BIL grew up together. That's pretty close, no doubt.

But it turned out that BIL might have overestimated their closeness – he wanted to be in the delivery room when OP gives birth. And surprisingly, OP's husband, even though it was a good idea, as his brother could be HIS emotional support during these difficult times while his wife is in pain and agony.

Of course, OP said no, which hurt their feelings. She posted a question on Reddit: "AITA for not wanting my husband's brother to be in the delivery room?"

The Redditors made a unanimous decision. Even though they kind of understand the husband's and his brother's point of view, they all feel the situation would be pretty weird.

We've selected some of the best answers, and we know you are going to find them interesting.

OP asked a question

She is pregnant with twins, has a problematic pregnancy, and a BIL who studies medicine...

They get along - they grew up together

And BIL expressed interest in being in the delivery room for the birth. OP’s husband also wanted him there for support. In his opinion, it was only fair since OP had her mom there.

The hospital doesn’t limit the number of people in the delivery room. Why not invite as many people as you can?

OP said no, and that her priority is having a pleasant birth. She wasn’t thrilled with the idea of having her husband there, let alone BIL

Her husband got all defensive, arguing that he should have support there too.

Most people agreed that it's kind of creepy, no matter if her BIL is a med student

And advised her to stand her ground

They understand that her BIL is interested because they don't get to see multiple births in med school, but it is simply weird.

Some people also pointed out that BIL should learn more about patient’s rights

12. Interesting analogy

People advised OP to make sure they understand that her decision is final

and pointed out that a support person shouldn't have a support person of his own

Why would you want him in there in the first place...

So true

Consent and ethics

This person nailed it:

People also pointed out that BIL will get to see plenty pregnancies and deliveries during his studies

OP posted an update on the situation:

Everything worked out...

We have to admit that this is a pretty weird situation. There is a saying that all people think their families are weird, but it only lasts until they get to know other families.

And we can’t disagree. What would you do if you were in this kind of situation?

Damjan