Redditor Asks If She's An A**hole For Refusing To Pay For BF's Dinner After He Messed Up Her Food Photos For Instagram

"Why are you even with this guy?"

Stephanie

• Published in Interesting
• May 25, 2023

We all have hobbies that we enjoy. And although sometimes they may not make sense to others, it's not unreasonable to expect our loved ones to respect the things that mean a lot to us.

Recently, Reddit user u/CapitalMess100 shared a story in the AITA (Am I The A**hole?) subreddit about how her boyfriend definitely does not respect her hobby. The OP explained that she has an Instagram account dedicated to photos of food from local restaurants.

She says that when she goes out to eat, she likes to take a few snaps of the food as it comes out. Nothing too over the top, just a quick photo for her page.

Since money has been tight recently, the OP hasn't been able to go out as much with her "foodie" friends. So, the only opportunity she has to eat out is when she's on a rare date night with her boyfriend.

The OP's boyfriend hates it when she takes photos at the table, but she asked him to please allow her to enjoy her hobby without making it a big deal. And, since they alternate who pays for each date, she asked that on the nights she is paying that he allow her to take a photo of their appetizers and meals.

The Redditor's boyfriend hesitantly agreed, and when they went out for dinner recently, he let the OP take a photo of the appetizers without any issues. However, when the entrees came out, he purposely messed his plate up with a fork so that the OP couldn't take her photo.

He then reached over and messed up the OP's food as well, so she couldn't even get a picture of her own meal. The OP says she was so angry that she refused to pay for her BF's meal even though it was her turn.

Now the OP is wondering if she was being an a**hole. Keep scrolling to see how people reacted.

The OP asked if she was the a**hole for refusing to pay for her boyfriend's food.

She explained that her hobby is taking photos of food for her Instagram account, but her boyfriend hates it.

Money has been tight, so the only chance the OP gets to eat out is when she's out on a date with her boyfriend.

Since they alternate who pays for each date, the OP asked her BF to allow her to take photos of his meal on nights when she's paying.

Recently, while out to dinner, the OP's BF messed up his entrée with a fork before doing the same to the OP's pasta, ruining any chance of taking photos.

Here's how people reacted.

"Dump this a**hole."

"BF went out of his way to be a jerk."

"Why are you even with this guy?"

NTA.

"Act like adults and talk it out."

"The audacity."

"Nothing but petty cruelty."

"Just put it down and enjoy the meal."

ESH.

"Using your phone at the dinner table is rude AF."

"I don't see the big deal."

"Your BF is being really immature."

"Maybe you are not meant to be together."

"Why are you together at all?"

What's your take on this situation? Do you think the OP was overreacting, or was it entirely understandable that she would be upset with her boyfriend for going against his word and ruining her photos?

We would love to hear your opinions on this. You can share your thoughts with us in the comment section.

Stephanie