College Student Refuses To Come Home For Christmas After Finding Out Her Family Bet On Her Slutiness
They made bets on how many men she would sleep with in college and more.
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- Published in Interesting
The journey to college is often filled with excitement and newfound freedom. For one freshman, OP, this milestone meant breaking free from homeschooling and embracing the college experience.
OP's parents were less than thrilled about her leaving for college, fearing she'd indulge in reckless behavior. Despite her excitement, their disapproval and constant attempts to pull her back home strained their relationship.
As her parents became increasingly controlling, OP found herself distancing from them, reducing communication to once a week.
What was more baffling was the drastic change in her parents' perception of her. They went from allowing her co-ed sleepovers to labeling her as a "good girl gone wild" in college. Their hurtful assumptions intensified when OP discovered a hurtful family chat discussing bets on her personal life, including her virginity and potential promiscuity.
Feeling embarrassed and betrayed, OP bravely confronted her mother, asking her to delete the chat or include her in it. The response she received was dismissive, with her mother denying the conversation's existence, even though OP had evidence to the contrary.
This breach of trust deeply wounded OP, leading her to make a tough decision—skipping Christmas at home and refusing to be her mother's caretaker after her upcoming surgery. The hurt and embarrassment were too much to bear, leading her to put her own needs and feelings first.
OP is a freshman in college and before that, she was homeschooled her entire life meaning that she has social anxiety
u/FrameClear4317OP still wanted to go away to college and experience freedom but her parents didn't want her to go
u/FrameClear4317Suddenly, her parents attitude towards her changed, and they saw her as a "good girl gone bad", since she wants to go to college
u/FrameClear4317OP was talking to her sister who told her that there was a bet that the family made on whether or not OP would become a slut in college
u/FrameClear4317OP was devastated by this especially since the group chat had OP's siblings, cousins, and aunts
u/FrameClear4317OP decided to confront her mom about it and demanded that she deletes the chat, but the mom pretended like the group chat didn't exist
u/FrameClear4317OP was furious and she told her mom that she won't be coming home for Christmas
u/FrameClear4317The mom is accusing OP of abandoning her in a time of need
u/FrameClear4317We need to see OP do this
RedditIt's hard to imagine people talking like that about a family member
u/valerian_spielOP grapples with the complexity of her emotions and actions. But in truth, she is not the one at fault here. Her parents' lack of respect for her privacy and the harmful family chat showcase a profound lack of understanding and empathy.
In times of transition, like the shift from homeschooling to college, open communication and support from family are crucial. Unfortunately, OP's parents failed to provide the emotional support she needed, driving a wedge between them.
As OP navigates college life and the challenges of independence, she needs to prioritize her well-being. Setting boundaries and taking time to heal from the family betrayal are valid responses to the situation she faced.