Woman Second Guesses Her Decision To Let Her Best Friend Move Into Her House After She Refuses To Help With Renovations

The friend also hasn't been very clear if she would actually like to move in or not.

Liezel

• Published in Interesting
• November 21, 2022

When you're young and your friends are such a huge part of your everyday life, moving in with them in the future might seem like a dream. It means you get to extend this little bubble of happiness that you have together.

And for most people, this does work. A lot of them get to live with their best friends in college or even after college while they're still starting out their careers.

It's also a great situation to be in because they have friends to split bills with and someone who could be their support system away from home. Sadly, not everyone gets to be in this dream scenario.

Sometimes, you just don't really get to see the other sides of people until that moving-in date comes around. And we guess that's what happened to Redditor budde__ and her friend.

The two were former roommates in college and they lived great together so everything seemed to be set in place without any hitch when the two planned to move in together at OP's house. The problem is that this friend didn't really set a clear date of when she'll move in or hasn't shown any interest in helping out in the renovations for the house.

Now, OP isn't sure if she wants her friend to move in or not. Here's the whole story.

OP asks:

The friend started moving her things into OPs house without a set date for when she'll fully move in

So while she wasn't there yet, OP started a full kitchen renovation to make the old house nicer for this friend

No matter how much OP tries to broach the subject of getting a final date and say if her friend will move in or not, the friend evades the questions

The friend still acts interested in moving in but has not yet made any moves whatsoever about it

If we were OP, we'd be pretty confused too. It's so simple to say if you're moving in or not or if there are problems you're facing that are preventing you from giving a concrete answer.

It's also not easy to just assume that the friend is just leading OP since she does seem interested and has moved some of her things in. But then again, it's not fair for the friend to keep OP hanging like that especially when she could have been using the house as another income stream.

Most of the people in the comments section seem to agree too. Here are the top comments.

1. Arrange a date for her to collect her stuff instead

2. All the signs point to the friend being a flake

3. She's a woman who can't commit to her words so OP dodged a bullet

4. Maybe she's just looking for a free storage rather than a place to move into

5. OP has to make the final decision for her

6. Better stop the problem before it even starts

7. The friend is already getting way too ahead of herself

Giving a move in date is the bare minimum and she can't even do that

8. OP shouldn't feel hassled in her own home

9. Everything the friend has done or hasn't done is a huge red flag

10. Get her out nice and quick

11. If she doesn't like the terms then she should be looking to live somewhere else

12. These are not things a sincere best friend would do

13. The friend is taking advantage of OP's kindness

14. Better stop her from moving in rather than going through the whole eviction process in the future

15. If it's a nightmare now, what then when dues come around?

16. There would be other more decent roommates

Giving an exact move-in date and answering the landlord's questions is the bare minimum this friend could have done if she really wanted to live in that house, however, she has done neither. This means that she might not actually be interested in moving in.

Plus, she already started with complaints about finances when she hasn't even slept in that house one night. So maybe the comments are right that OP should kick out her things and find another roommate instead.

What do you think?

Liezel