Furious Redditor Steps Down As Best Man At Friend's Wedding After Discovering His Girlfriend Isn't Invited

The six-month relationship that shook a lifelong friendship to its core.

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• June 10, 2024

One of our narrator’s (Original Poster’s) best friends just got engaged after four blissful years with his girlfriend. The couple was set to tie the knot in a year, and naturally, OP was over the moon for them. 

Then, a few days ago, he popped the question—not ‘that question,’ but one almost as important: “Will you be my best man?” Of course, the answer was a very enthusiastic yes—how could OP refuse such an honor? 

However, things soon took a turn for the awkward. The official invites were in, and to OP’s surprise, his girlfriend only got an evening invitation. 

Apparently, they had a tight cap of fifty people for the main ceremony, then a hundred for the evening; adding anyone else would cost extra.

Understood, wedding budgets were no joke. But it stung a lot, especially when OP learned their online gaming buddies got full-day invites along with their partners.

It was no secret the bride was wary of new people, and OP’s girlfriend was rarely invited to social gatherings at their house as a result. It was worth noting that when OP’s friend first started dating her, OP made sure she was included in everything right from the start. 

He and his girlfriend had been together for six months, and by the time the wedding rolled around, they’d be nearing two years together. This wasn’t just some casual fling, so why was she being sidelined?

Feeling slighted, OP decided to step down as best man and boycott the wedding altogether. The groom wasn’t thrilled, to say the least. 

Sure, it might have seemed like he was casually throwing away years of friendship, but how could he possibly give a heartfelt best-man speech after such a snub?

Was he the AH in this situation?

Let's dig into the details

Here's an overview of the story

OP stepped down as best man and declined the wedding invitation after his girlfriend was not included on the guest list.

Important edit

OP feels that the couple should have done better, especially since they are a tight knit group and see each-other regularly

OP stated that he isn't trying to convince anyone that he’s right. Rather, he just wanted to give a bit more context into their friendship

Check out some interesting comments we've gathered from the Reddit community;

"6 months into a relationship and you're ready to throw away a life.long friendship"

"You've been with your girlfriend for 6 months, the couple doesn't know her"

"YTA for making this a dealbreaker for you with your best friend"

They're not changing their wedding to accommodate your demands."

"You've wasted a friendship over a new relationship.

"Feels like the "happy couple" created a problem here."

Redditors were pretty shocked OP was willing to risk a lifelong friendship over a six-month relationship. They deemed him the a**hole for blowing things out of proportion.

OP, realizing his overreaction, appreciated the advice. He vowed to mend things with his friend and acknowledged he’d probably taken things a tad too far. It was time to focus on what truly mattered: his long-standing friendship with his best bud.

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Jesse