Argument Erupts As Bride Gets Upset That She Was Ditched During And After Her Wedding

"I’m upset of course and he keeps asking me why"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• May 16, 2024

The most difficult aspect of wedding preparation can be organizing the reception. By contrast, the ceremony ought to appear pleasant and uncomplicated.

The majority of the tasks involved are determined by the location, the officiant, and the legal vows. However, the reception is when you can truly showcase your exceptional party-planning abilities.

For the record and let's be honest: your guests really came for the reception. Although they are glad and delighted for you, all any of us truly want is a drink, a free meal, and lots of dancing.

But then, the act of receiving something—in this case, the bride and groom and their new marriage—is what is meant to be understood by the word reception. So what happens when you're the only one handling everything because the groom is nowhere to be found?

Well, the OP was actually having a vow renewal as she and her husband were already legally married. They got the reception “party” all planned, as they wanted a really short ceremony before the reception party!

The OP specifically asked her partner to please stay with her as they mingled around, but he ditched her. Even when the party was over and they were supposed to go do their wedding night duties, he still left her to go to the bar.

Read the full story below to find out what happens next.

The headline

The OP specifically asked her partner to please stay with her

He keeps bringing that one time the OP “left” and he found her outside

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

After wedding/ reception I wanted to go home with husband. He wanted to go to bar.

And the comments from other Redditors roll in...

The OP planned it in her mind

A very wild scenario

What's stopping the OP from mingling?

The OP added this edit for people asking where her people were

My Dad is dead, my mother has Alzheimer’s and was unable to attend. Yes my sister was there and my adult nieces and a friend. That’s what I had. And honestly who was there isn’t the issue just added in the original post to give context that it was mostly his friends. I am an introvert and have social anxiety, but can handle and deal when needed.

And no, I wasn’t sitting in a corner all night “poor me” I was out and about. Just by myself. Not with my husband. Every wedding I’ve been to the bride and groom kinda mingle around the majority of the night together of course there are times they are on their own. So that is how I was expecting things to go. Not completely in reverse.

The OP didn't want to socialise?

The OP is the one who didn't want to join

He must have shown those signs

There shouldn't have been any party

The entire dancing portion

The "groom" was the one who clearly deserted the OP, was swept up by the occasion and spent time having fun with loved ones. It's crazy because even though the OP didn't want to go to the bar, he still went.

Many Redditors considered the biggest red flag to be the sly manipulation strategies the groom used the next day. In the end, the OP was declared not the AH.

Maryjane