Woman Wants To Back Out As A Bridesmaid After Finding Out That A Woman Who Harassed Her Before Is Now Part Of Her Sister's Bridal Entourage

Her parents want her to keep the peace by letting things be.

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• Published in Interesting
• March 25, 2023

Being a bridesmaid for a family member is such a huge honor. You closely get to witness the love between your sibling and their soon-to-be partner in life.

However, being one can be a chore too, especially if a person who's part of a bridal entourage is someone you hate. There's no other way around this other than to be nice.

Remember that you'll only be spending a few hours with these people. So it's better to keep yourself from snapping at or criticizing them.

Focus on what's important at the moment, which is to support your loved one on their special day. If you're feeling overwhelmed, try to take a deep breath and remind yourself of your role as a bridesmaid.

Still, some situations will make a woman want to back out of being a bridesmaid. And today's story is about that specific situation.

A woman turned to the "Am I The A**hole?" (AITA) community when she found out that one of the bridesmaids is a person who traumatized her in the past. The original poster (OP) already agreed to be a bridesmaid.

This horrible person made her remember the awful things, making the OP want to back out. She'd still attend the wedding but would avoid her sister's bridesmaid.

Sadly, the OP's parents dismissed her feelings and told her to keep the peace. Finally, she decided to ask the AITA subreddit for their opinions on her backing out.

A woman wants to back out of being a bridesmaid for her sister's wedding.

The OP knows the groom because she and him used to belong in the same circle of friends.

Something bad happened within that group.

What happened in that friendship was traumatic for her. One of the people from that circle even harassed her.

One day, she found out that one of the bridesmaids is that very person who hurt her in the past.

The OP doesn't want to be bridesmaid anymore. But her parents tell her to keep the peace.

After all that she's been through, it's best to look after herself.

She only needs to keep her peace.

Her parents' idea of keeping the peace is just wrong.

The OP's family need to be more understanding of her.

A Redditor suggests a good written message the OP can use and send to her sister.

The message penned above is what exactly the OP needs to say.

The peace was broken the moment her sister made the horrible person her bridesmaid.

The family should be thankful that the OP is still willing to attend the wedding.

This family just makes you wonder how much they value the OP.

Sadly, the sister knew all about it. And yet, she still chose that person to be a bridesmaid.

Her plan of stepping down can already considered keeping the peace.

The parents would rather worry about how other people will view a sister who didn't participate in a wedding than their daughter's well being.

Protecting one's mental health is not a-hole behavior.

It's not about keeping the peace anymore. The OP's family needs to respect her boundaries.

One Redditor predicts that regardless of what she does, the situation will be bad either way.

The OP is actually handling the situation well.

What's wrong with trying to avoid the person who made your life miserable?

Each member of this family needs to try imagining themselves in the OP's shoes. Would they want to see the person who scarred their life?

The OP can always step down as the bridesmaid, but she also needs to think about her words carefully so that they won't cause tension in the family. We hope everything goes well for her.

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