Redditor Sparks Family Tension By Refusing To Prioritize Aunt's Supposed Allergies While Her Mother's Real Ones Are Ignored

"She told me if she didn't like something she would just say she is allergic to it."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• February 9, 2024

Good family relationships are maintained by taking care of each other and considering each member's well-being as a shared priority. Nurturing these bonds implicates recognizing and respecting individual needs and preferences.

When family members attentively listen, empathize, and make efforts to accommodate each other's physical, emotional, and dietary needs, trust and respect deepen, strengthening the sense of belonging and harmony within the family. However, not all people are capable of maintaining good family ties.

Some of us are more self-centered than others, and it can harm family relations. Recently, a Reddit user, a 17-year-old girl, attended a family dinner with her uncle (28) and his wife (24), who is notorious for her doubtful allergy claims.

The OP's mother (40) suffers from severe gluten intolerance also, but the family consistently fails to cater to her dietary needs. At the dinner, the OP prepared bacon-wrapped water chestnuts, her favorite dish, but it sparked outrage from her uncle due to his wife's alleged allergy.

The OP tried to explain that the water chestnuts are not nuts, but the couple still refused the dish. Later, the OP shared a Nutella-filled chocolate with her siblings, causing her uncle to furiously claim it could harm his wife due to her allergies.

The OP said to her uncle that his wife doesn't even know what food she is allergic to, but her mother knows, yet no one cared if she could eat the food being served. This led to the aunt leaving in tears and the uncle angrily confronting the OP.

The incident divided the family, with some criticizing the OP, while others expressed remorse for not considering her mother's health and promised to improve. So, the OP feels torn by the family's mixed reactions and wants to hear an outside perspective on the situation.

The OP asks:

The OP explained she learned that her aunt tends to lie about her allergies:

The OP's mom is severely gluten intolerant, but it seems that no one cares:

The OP made her favorite dish, which provoked an argument between her and her uncle due to the auntie's allergies:

Later, another incident happened that caused them to argue again:

That upset her aunt, and a lot of family members blamed the OP:

So, the OP asks for unbiased opinions on the matter:

The OP was not in the wrong, her aunt should know about her own allergies

Either she is irresponsible, or she is lying

If the aunt fakes her allergies, it says a lot about her character

The OP is more reasonable than her uncle and aunt

The aunt is selfish, and the OP is NTA

Adults should know what food they are allergic to

Redditors unanimously agreed that the OP was not in the wrong for defending her mother. Also, she had shown more responsibility than her uncle and his wife.

A grown-up should know what food they are allergic to. Furthermore, the aunt's tendency to lie about being allergic to certain foods makes people wonder if she's really allergic.

Filip