Woman Doesn't Want To Attend Her Grandma's Funeral As She Doesn't Want To Deal With The "Golden Darlings" Of The Family, Redditors React

"You have to do what’s best for the family”

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• July 24, 2023

It's awful to lose your grandma, and it's much worse to lose her suddenly. It might be challenging to put into words how you are feeling after the loss of someone who had such a big impact on your life.

Your relationship with your grandma and how your parents manage the situation will have a big impact on how you handle her passing. Others may live far away and only occasionally communicate with their grandparents.

Some of us are lucky enough to have all the time to spend with our grandparents. In this situation, you can say that that person's second mother could be their grandma.

This can greatly assist you in opening up to your grandparents, which can occasionally seem difficult when it comes to your parents. The original poster of today's story shares how she has had no contact with all but three people in her biological family.

Her grandma was among the three people, and she died after a long battle with Alzheimer’s. The OP was given less than 24 hours' notice about the funeral, and she has been contemplating whether she should go or not.

The OP was raised by her father and stepmother, and she has never known her biological mother. The OP wants to pay her last respects, but she also doesn’t want to drive six hours each way.

Read her full story below and know the reasons why she doesn't want to attend the funeral. 

The OP writes:

The OP has been no contact with all but three people in her biological family for well over three years

The OP wants to go pay her respects, but she also doesn’t want to drive 6 hours each way

The OP has had some friends say that she's a terrible person for even thinking of not going

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a-hole:

1. Not attending my grandmother’s funeral.
2. Because she’s family, it’s the only chance I’ll have, & my family says I’m one for not going.

We've gathered a bunch of the most upvoted comments from redditors for you to read through below

The OP is already dealing with significant emotional pain

You have to do what's best for the family

The OP should stay home and recover and just basically take care of herself

The OP should think about how the attendance at her grandma's burial will be?

This Redditor pens down what the OP should say

The OP owes them nothing and everyone else can use the door

No one really wants to fall out at a wake

"The older, the mellower," they say. As a result, your grandmother may be more understanding of your flaws than your parents, so it's not hard to see why the OP still maintained contact.

In the end, it's her decision to attend the funeral or not, and Redditors understood her point. She was declared not the AH, and that's about it.

Maryjane