Woman Questions Whether Brother's Divorce Is Final After Six Years Of Separation, Causing Awkward Moment With New Girlfriend

"He messaged me a couple of hours later, basically yelling at me and calling me the worst names possible"

Damjan

• Published in Interesting
• October 24, 2023

In our everyday interactions with people, the things we say can sometimes get us into trouble or make situations uncomfortable. It's like when we casually chat with friends or family, and we don't think much about what we're saying.

But these seemingly small words can actually cause problems and lead to conflicts. OP is a 32-year-old woman who has a 38-year-old older brother who has been separated from his wife for six years, with minimal communication.

He often claimed that his wife was waiting for him to file for divorce. About five years ago, he started dating a girl who they broke up with five months ago. OP is her met this new girlfriend briefly during dinner.

During a recent dinner with her brother and his new girlfriend of one month, OP unintentionally brought up the topic of her brother's divorce.

This created an awkward silence, and her brother vehemently denied her statement, angrily calling her names and asking her to stop talking. Feeling uncomfortable, she left the dinner after paying her share.

Her brother later messaged her, berating her and involving their mother in the dispute. OP is now questioning if she was wrong for her unintentional remark and the extreme reaction from her brother.

She acknowledges that alcohol might have influenced her judgment but believes her brother's response was excessive. She seeks opinions on whether she is the one at fault in this situation.

OP's older brother separated from his wife 6 years ago, they rarely communicate, and he's yet to file for divorce

During dinner with his new girlfriend, OP accidentally brings up the topic of his brother's long-delayed divorce, which angers OP's brother.

OP accidentally exposed her brother's lie about being divorced and feels hurt by his dishonesty.

OP's brother is definitely in the wrong for not being honest with the women he's dating about his legal relationship status

He should have told OP in advance that he was pretending to be single.

It's not the OP's fault

The first rule of lying is to ensure that those who know the truth will also cover for you

He reaped what he sowed

OP can't assist in maintaining a deception she had no knowledge of.

Liars don't deserve sympathy

OP's brother shouldn't be dishonest with the girls he's dating.

OP should block her brother until he apologizes and learns to respect her

It's not OP to blame for his reaction to a factual question

He's upset because he lied and got caught.

It's not right to blame only OP for what happened. Sure, what OP said about her brother's divorce wasn't great timing, and it caught everyone off guard.

But the way her brother reacted, with all the angry words, was just too much. We all have times when we say things without really thinking about it, especially in casual conversations.

So, while OP's comment wasn't perfect, her brother's big reaction and her mom getting mad at her seem like too much.

Damjan