Woman Storms Out Every Time Her Partner Starts Having Uncontrollable Anger Tantrums, Feels Guilty Afterwards And Seeks Advice Online

"HURRY UP AND HELP! HELP HELP HELP!"

Maryjane

• Published in Interesting
• November 8, 2023

Anger is a strong emotion that, if left unchecked, can have devastating effects. Anger can spiral out of control, just like a forest fire does, destroying everything in its path, including homes, tall trees, and living things.

While everyone experiences occasional anger, some people suffer from extreme, uncontrollable rage. This is a typical form of unhealthy anger, but what happens if your partner, boyfriend, or girlfriend is one of this angry group?

The relationship might be tricky to understand and manage. Finding a way to protect yourself while still wanting to assist them can be difficult.

When your partner is furious, it is counterproductive and maybe even harmful to talk about their anger management problems. Instead, it's advised to speak with them when things are quiet.

This environment promotes honest, non-defensive discussion about anger, its effects, and possible management techniques. By doing this, handling an angry individual in a relationship will become less combative and more focused on finding solutions.

But this wasn't the OP at all, as she would always storm out when her partner started acting up. The OP and her boyfriend have been together for five years, and she says he's been wonderful a lot of the time.

But at other times, he's freaking out about this, that, and the other. Everyday inconveniences throw him for a loop, and he deals with stress badly.

She, on the other hand, doesn't like dealing with his anger tantrums, so she leaves whenever he starts complaining about every little thing.

The headline

The story kicks off

OP doesn't want to be yelled at

Feeling bad and guilty

The OP added this in the comments:

I truly love him. And I KNOW who he is...he tries hard to be a good person and he just wants to be successful and be a good partner and have a nice life. I'm sure it's very upsetting to him when he keeps failing. I have empathy for him. But also, I am (probably stupidly) hopeful that at some point something will be figured out that can help him avoid these outbursts. Maybe I AM naive.

The comments roll in...

Abuse counseling

It's been five years

OP needs to leave

And the OP reveals more saying:

I don't have anger issues so I don't know what it feels like. He says that there's always this anger bubbling right under the surface and he works hard to control it every day but in some situations it gets the better of him. He claims that in order to change who he is (to get rid of the anger issues) it would take many years of intensive therapy.

This Redditor's asking

OP's reply

The OP should leave

End the trauma

Learning more about anger management problems, their origins, and potential solutions is the first step in taking action. But then, the angry person has to be willing to help themselves first by seeking therapy.

It was very obvious to many Redditors that OP's partner is having issues self-regulating his emotions, but that's not her responsibility to carry. Leave your thoughts about this story in the comments section below and share this post as well.

Maryjane