Woman Made Her Boyfriend Cry After Making A "Harmless Joke", Redditors Point Out The Flaming Red Flags

"I was truly cringed out about his attitude and left the apartment as soon as I finished cleaning."

Kylin

• Published in Funny
• May 6, 2023

Moving in with your significant other is a pretty big step in a relationship. Not only are you committing to your partner emotionally and physically, but also financially.

I know many couples who have used finances as a reason for why living together would make more sense. Instead of them both paying for their living accommodations, where likely one is using their space less due to sleepovers, they can both share the cost and space!

Once you’re living with your partner, though, that’s when you really start to learn about each other. It can be easy to love and desire someone who you don’t share your space with and see every single day and night. 

But inevitably, annoying habits that might easily be missed will be found out. And it’s hard to know if your significant other is a secret hoarder or is the sort of person who clips their toenails at the table unless you’re in the thick of it.

Ideally, one would want to parse out the deal-breaking habits before taking the leap toward setting up a home together. And hopefully, have a backup plan and difficult conversations with their partner about the “what-if” of their relationship.

One Redditor found this out the hard way, although there were signs she missed along the way. User Zealousideal_Joke_94 shared on r/AITA (Am I The A-hole) an odd interaction with her boyfriend only a week after they moved in together.

After making a seemingly innocuous comment about her boyfriend's clothes, she found herself at the receiving end of a two-hour tantrum. And yet, she still was unsure if she was in the wrong, hence turning to Reddit for judgment.

Keep scrolling to read the full story, and to see how Redditors (hopefully) opened OP’s eyes to the red flags her boyfriend has been waving. 

OP explains that she just moved in with her boyfriend only a week ago

OP let her boyfriend know she kept two drawers free for his underwear and socks, but he said he didn't need them

OP let her boyfriend know she kept two drawers free for his underwear and socks, but he said he didn't need them

Surprised by his response, OP made a lighthearted comment about the number of underwear and socks he had

Apparently, he said yes, then went off to pout about it, FOR TWO HOURS

According to OP, he had locked himself in the bathroom for an hour, before coming out and continuing to pout for ANOTHER hour

OP just ignored his pity party, and kept cleaning

OP later added that her boyfriend shouldn't have any issue affording additional underwear

Very convenient

Either he gets therapy or OP should GTFO

OP's boyfriend is definitely immature

He chose to get offended over something very small

And not taking care of himself properly is a red flag in and of itself

OP really should consider the longevity of this relationship

His attempts at manipulation is another red flag

Really weird, for sure

I feel like men's underwear especially is some of the cheapest clothing

A good point: OP asked a simple question, it wasn't even a real joke to be misconstrued

Apparently this isn't the first time something like this has happened

This could be a troubling pattern

OP and her boyfriend need to have a grown up conversation

Maybe the red flag faded in the wash?

These flags are most definitely red, not orange

That's a bleak future

Super exhausting

Green/red colorblindness is a thing, hopefully not for OP

A whole bunch of 'em

And why only *three* specifically?

Let's be real, if OP stays, future arguments will likely escalate past pouting in the corner

He's close to being a walking "red flag"

OP's boyfriend seems like a classic example of "Failure to Launch"

Truly a harmless joke

Okay, but seriously, I have questions about OP’s boyfriend. Specifically, why so few pairs of underwear and socks?

Does he do laundry every two days, or does he employ the method of flipping them inside out for extra wear? Actually, thinking about it, I’m not sure I want to know for sure.

What I do know is that for being 22 years old, OP’s boyfriend has some growing up to do. What do you think, dear reader?

Kylin