It's One Thing Not Wanting To Be A Stepmom To Your Partner's Affair Baby, But When You Abandon That Child On Christmas, It Says A Lot More

An affair baby is no doubt a constant reminder of your partner's infidelity, but does that mean the child has to pay for someone else's sins?

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• December 31, 2021

It's a difficult pill to swallow when someone you're in a relationship with cheats on you, and it's even worse when your partner ends up having a baby with the person they are cheating with. Such a child would constantly remind you of your partner's infidelity, betrayal, and disregard for your feelings.

A lot of people have gone through similar experiences, and some of them ended up taking drastic measures to get over their pain–but that's not the case with this Reddit user. The woman, who goes by the Reddit name u/Consistent_Field_900 did something that a lot of people would not expect in such a scenario.

She explained the painful experience of getting cheated on by her husband. Worst of all, the unthinkable happened; it resulted in a child between her husband and his ex-mistress.

In spight of the betrayal and the pain, she decided to forgive him. However, not everything seems to be rosy in their family, with the addition of an affair baby.

The Redditor explained that even tho she has forgiven her husband, she just can't force herself to see his son as her stepson. It gets sadder knowing that neither the boy's biological mum, the Redditor (stepmom), or his dad want to spend the Christmas break with him.

This resulted in the Redditor and her husband leaving the little boy with his grandmother while they both ran off to enjoy a quality vacation. Take a look at the entire story...

Call it guilty conscience or just not wanting to be an absentee parent, but the Redditor doesn't seem to be 100% convinced that she made the right decision, and she couldn't help asking other users if she was right or wrong

She forgave her husband for cheating, but it seems she's taking out her anger on the innocent child

Due to custody arrangements, the dad gets to have the boy during Christmas vacation, but the Redditor planned a trip and completely excluded the little boy

The Redditor tried to get his mom to take him for a week, but she argued that the boy's dad should want to be with his son for Christmas

Surprisingly, the dad didn't want to spend time with his son and rather agreed with the Redditor (his wife) to leave the child with his grandmother while they enjoyed their vacation

The boy's mum found out about their arrangement and was furious, calling the Redditor a "selfish" person

Apparently, the Redditor's oldest daughter wasn't happy about how they were treating her stepbrother

A lot of users were interested in the story and decided to weigh in with their opinions. We gathered the very best comments for you.

"If you can't handle being around the child, you haven't forgiven your husband"

"Custody time is for the kid to spend time with their parent, not to be rubbed off on a grandparent"

"Quit punishing an innocent child for your husband's screw up"

"He's a little boy who deserves to be wanted all year long"

"You should take some advice from your daughter turns out that CHILD is a wayyy better person than you"

"If you forgive your husband, you accept the child"

"You sound bitter and angry which is certainly understandable, but you either need to truly forgive your husband and the child, or move on"

"Ultimately you are clearly not over your husband's cheating"

"You aren't treating this kid like a person. You're treating them like an inconvenient object"

"The affair baby can't help existing"

"For just a moment, think about how not being wanted feels"

"You can’t say you’ve forgiven your husband, yet also say you can’t see his son. That’s not how forgiveness works"

This user is ready to take the boy in for the holidays

There's no denying that it's hard to transition into being a stepmother, especially if the child comes from an affair. However, when you decide to remain with your partner, you do so knowing that the child will be a part of both of your lives.

Sure, the affair baby would bring up memories of one of the worst memories in your relationship, but it's also a new life waiting to be loved and cared for.

What's more, you staying with your partner means that both of you need to have an honest conversation about how to grow as a family. Because at the end of the day, there's another person who is involved–the child.

Jesse