Dad Firmly Rejects Adoptive Son's Plea For Shelter After 9 Years Of Abandonment Following Reunion With His Biological Parents

“He didn’t consider me family then, so he better forget about me now!”

Jesse

• Published in Interesting
• January 14, 2024

Love is a profound force, one that usually transcends mere blood ties. Our narrator (Original Poster) and his spouse proved this by turning a three-year foster connection official by legally adopting his six-year-old son.

As their son blossomed into adulthood, a new character emerged on the scene—his wife-to-be. OP’s son was only 18 when this love story began; his love interest believed in the power of connections and urged him to explore his roots.

As fate would have it, he reconnected with his parents. They had him when they were young and unstable, and reluctantly gave up parental rights to give him a shot at a better future.

Slowly but surely, OP and his now ex-wife found themselves pushed to the edge of their son's life. When he finally walked down the aisle, they attended as mere visitors, callously excluded from the wedding party—that was the final blow.

This odd estrangement took a severe emotional toll on OP’s ex-wife; all she did was invest all her love into being a mother. OP’s heart was also heavy, and he honestly wished the daughter-in-law had never come into their lives.

Well, life’s unpredictable winds blew once more, and OP’s son found himself in a financially tough spot. He pleaded that his family seek refuge in OP’s home while getting back on his feet, but the response was a resounding NO!

While OP’s ex-wife insisted he was too harsh, OP was ready to stand by his word. His “son” didn’t consider them family during his wedding and even childbirth, so he better forget about them now.

Was OP justified in his reasoning?

The story in detail

A bit of background

After the boy got married, he slowly pushed OP and his mom out of his life. Now, he was fully focused on creating a relationship with his biological parents

OP’s son and the wife later ran into financial problems and lost their home. Consequently, he reached out to OP for shelter but was bluntly denied

Despite the pressure to assist his son, OP stood firm on his decision. After all, he’ll just abandon them again when he gets back on his feet

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Here’s how the Reddit community reacted to the story:

“NTA he has been pushing you away for 9 years for his bio parents. He's clearly indicated you are not his parents.”

“They don't care about you. Calling you to ask for help is outrageous after abandoning you and your wife.”

“You are NTA. His wife did this and your son let her. Shame on them.”

“NTA. He and his wife have spent nine years making it abundantly clear that you and your wife don’t matter to them.”

“ You and your wife did a wonderful thing raising this person, but he’s shown you his true feelings for you two.”

In the eyes of Redditors, OP is definitely NTA. Nine years of distancing clearly indicate that OP’s son doesn’t consider him a parent. He doesn’t get to suddenly show up in his time of need.

He already left wounds too deep to mend, and in all this, there was no indication of remorse.

Redditors commend OP's reluctance to be used. There’s a limit to everything, including forgiveness.

What do you think about this story? Let us know in the comments.

Jesse